Am I Wrong here?

AeroStyle

Hi Ladies,

A few months ago I started planning the parent gifts. I decided to get each of their wedding photos put on canvas. For FILs I asked FSIL to sneak their wedding album out of the house so I could scan the picture. The was nice enough to get it for me right away. I ordered the print and it came out beautiful! I was so excited about it.

Cut to today, FSIL txts me and says its FILs anniversary this weekend. For their gift she wants to give them...their framed wedding photo and did I mind.

Umm, yes I mind! That's exactly what I got for them. We aren't really close and I was excited to get them something kind of personal/sentimental. I just said I thought it might look a little weird since I'm pretty much giving the same present 2 months from now.

She's not a mean girl, so I can't imagine she would do it on purpose, but I wonder why she would want to give them pretty much the same thing that we are before we have a chance to give the gift.

Would this annoy you? Am I overreacting?

CassieeK

Ditto Retread.  I would tell your fiance to talk to her.

HandBanana

I agree, have your FI handle it.

And yes it would annoy me too.

McKenna2012

I'd be mad, too. You're not wrong.

SSaltzman87

I'd be peeved as well. She knew exactly what you were planning to give them in the future, and to basically give them the same gift is a little weird.

AeroStyle

Thanks ladies. When things like this piss me off I just like to check myself and make sure I'm not crazy!

HappyMOH77

You are not wrong, but she may have just had a brain lapse so I would go easy on her.  I would take to my FI and ask him if he felt it would be better for him to handle it or for you to since he knows her better.  However, i am inclined to say if the photo exchagne was between you and you feel comfortable you should handle it.  I might just say gee I really wanted the gift we are giving them for the wedding to be special I am really trying to make a good impression on your mom and dad.  I wish I had known you were thinking of getting them the same thing for the anaver.  Since I already purchased it maybe we could find a compromise.  If she is insistent since a canvas print was prob more than just a framed photo maybe you can help her think of another option or offer to go shopping with her.  The thought is what counts most.  I realize that many would oppose this idea, but if she is really insistant on giving the same gift since the wedding is two months away you may even want to offer that you and your husband and her give the canvas photo for the anaversery and find another gift for the wedding.  You will show that you how graceful you can be (over time what happended is likly to come out just don't be the one to say it and when it does don't talk about it just smile and say the most important thing is they got to enjoy it for 2 months longer).  Afterall you will become a part of this family and you will have to learn to deal with the members without asking your husband to intervene.  The sister is prob just niave and liked the idea.  it is likly if you stay cool and point it out she will find something else.  If not you can proceed from there.