The wedding is in a little less than 4 week and I think shes going insane!! We have been planning this wedding, making decisions doing a lot of DIY projects all together. She is my "wedding planner" in a way, but she is starting to drive me crazy!
The first thing, she got a little attitude about me not choosing a tux/suit for the fathers to wear. My FHs dad wouldnt rent a tux or be comfortable in one so i said they can wear whatever is comfortable for them. Mom freaked and was claimed my father needs to wear a tux because he is walking me down the aisle. No he does not, we are not having an incredibly formal wedding, we are having our ceremony on the beach. We got that out of the way, but i think she is still bitter about it(randomly brings it up).
Just the other day she asked what are our ring bearers wearing on their feet.....i dont care. We picked out and purchased their outfits, im not going to demand they wear a certain show, it is whatever they are comfortable in. She keeps saying i need to make these decisions so everyones not confused....Im telling them to choose themselves, i am not going to dictate outfits from head to toe!
She also has this mind set where i dont need to confer with my FH about any details...Unlike most grooms(i guess) he actually cares about details and how things look(though he doesnt want to spend the time actually DOING any of it). She says things like "well you need to make a decision" okay i need to talk to FH first and she always asks "why?" Because this is not just MY wedding it is OUR wedding. She wants me to make decisions on the spot w/o speaking to him first, I made that mistake once already and he was a little upset by it! I wont do it again!! She keeps saying "why does he care? he just shows up and smiles its YOUR day." AAHH so frustrating!
Now today...we had my dress fitting(it fit perfectly, yay diet/exercise!!) then just discussed somethings. She brought up the day of schedule, which we are having one and making cute little print outs to go in guest bags at the hotel for everyone involved. I like the idea so no one is confused, until she started stressing about driving situations. We all have cars, we could all techniqually drive ourselves. My bridesmaids and I are going to spend the day together and drive to the location after hair/makeup to get ready. The groom and groomsmen will arrive together as well. No big deal, then she started asking about the kids(2 ring bearers 1 flower girl) and how they are arriving... They are my niece and nephew and my brother is a gm and the other ring bearer is the bm son...I assumed the two boys will ride with the groomsmen and my SIL will be with us for my FG since she is getting her hair done and would drive her over to the location. Well my mom made a big deal out of what i see as nothing, because the ring bearers get to be with the wedding party...for a 10min drive mind you...and the FG doesnt. The simple fact is my BP and I will probably be too occupied to watch a 3 year old and we dont have room in the car for a carseat....She was stressing this car situation so much that it stressed me out like i needed to decide right then and there, its not a critical detail! Which i said, and she goes into a lecture about how we need everything thought of ahead of time just so we have all our bases covered(her favorite saying)!
Am i being insensitive or is she just taking things too far? I dont see the big deal in who arrives and drives with who...It seems a little crazy to me!