I loved my MIL when I was dating my husband. When we got engaged, both me and my husband started to see things about her that was just down right obnoxious!! She didn't have any regard for our guest list, (she just kept adding and adding as if a wedding doesn't cost anything, but procrastinated on the rehersal dinner, like she didn't want to plan it.) She would make comments on how she couldn't wait to be a grandmother but since it took us forever (we dated 3 years, engaged for 9 months) to get married, she'd probably never be a grandmother (oh so inapporpriate and obnoxious). Just a few things that she would do. I started to see things about her that I DID NOT like and I just started to avoid his family.
Bad thing is, my parents, his parents, and us live in the same city. We live about 30 minutes away from his family.
I have been thinking of the holidays and I really don't want to spend it with them. I know I can't take my husband away, but was wondering how any of you have handled the inlaw situation like this. I know the holidays are inevitable b/c we'll have to spend time with both my family and his family equally.
On the weekends I literally try to plan them out so I don't have to go to his parents house. Sad, but I'll intentionally make plans. This weekend I lucked out as they are going out of town.
I hope it gets better and I'm sure it will since the marriage is so new, I'm still learning how to actually deal with her, but I'm worried that this woman is going to drive me nuts!!
How do you handle MIL's when you're married, especialy when you don't like her and have to live in the same city as her.
Advice is greatly appreciated!!