I will try to make this short and sweet, here goes....My wedding is next May. I have asked my 4 sisters and my fiance's sister to be BMs. However, I also asked my Best Friend. Well my mom and sisters have been more than obvious about the fact that they disagree with my decision. To the point of almost shunning her and making my friend feel like odd man out, while my friend tries to go out of her way to be involved, and helpful. Also, I have a 6 yr old daughter (that I bring to this relationship), the moment wedding/marriage was mentioned she got so excited but she also asked if she could have her little bff (my best friends daughter) as a flower girl with her. Now, after some discussion my Fiance and I agreed we were fine with it.
Now comes the problem: My mom has made more than a few comments about the fact that she dislikes that I have put my friends daughter as a flower girl with my daughter. It has become insanly frustrating for me because my mom and I usually dont see eye to eye, and I was hoping the wedding planning would bring us closer...but now I feel its going to tear us further apart. She feels that having 2 flower girls takes away from my daughter, however, my fiance and I have made arrangements with the church to include my daughter in the vows/exchange of rings with a special token for her to symbolize our coming together as a family. My mom wants my 2 flower girls to be as different as possible to the point its insane, she has told me I better dress them different, I better make my child stand out more...etc. I have chosen the same dress for the girls however my daughters will be white (like mine) and the other will wear blue (like the BMs) My daughters flowers will be a mini-replica of mine, while the other will be a mini-replica of the BM's. But we are nit-picking to the point of the earrings and necklace i wanted to purchase the kids, and how my daughter should be special, and the other child is "no one" ...my response was kind of snippy (because im losing my cool now) i turned real quick and said " i would buy my 6 BMs the same jewelry, why not my 2 FGs?? Especially because like I said my fiance and I are planning to purchace a special item (most likely a ring) for my daughter.
I am losing my mind, I dont know what to do, I am getting to a point that I am just OVER the whole wedding, instead of being excited!!! I obviously cant go to my Best Friend about this because i dont want to make her feel aweful. I know its my day, and my decisions, but I just can't take the comments etc. and I am trying not to cause a huge issue between me and my mom and sisters...Advise pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!