Moms and Maids
I love my mom....
Okay. I really do love my mom. A little story, first: My sister was engaged and had the wedding planned when he broke it off, so that was hard on everyone. My mom has always been EXTREMELY involved with our lives. School field trip chaperone, band mom, spring musical costume department, you name the event we were in, she was there. Always. There. Which, don't get me wrong, I'm happy with. I'm glad she has been involved with our lives and I'm thrilled that she is excited for me.
But she's... driving.. me... nuts. We've been engaged for nearly two months. We're getting married next October, so... roughly 10 months to go until the big day. LAST NIGHT we were talking on the phone (she lives in Cali) and I mentioned to her that I'm going to make my rehearsal dinner dress. I already have the pattern, and I have coupons for JoAnns to buy fabric this weekend.
Today, just like, an hour ago, she texts me a picture of a short, white, lacy dress. "Like it?" I reply, "For who/what?" "You, rehearsal dinner." Tbh, I didn't really like the dress. I said, "It's not my favorite." I wanted to say, "MOM. We just talked about this last night!! Like, barely 12 hours ago!!! I am going to make my dress."
She's done this with a number of other things too... I say "I want candles that sit on the floor" for some decorations, she says, "Look at these candelabras I found! Aren't they pretty?" I say, "Afternoon ceremony. Evening reception." She says, "Night time ceremony. Late night reception." I say, "No big flowers on my wedding dress, and not super poofy." Guess what she suggests....
Like I said. I love my mom. I am overjoyed that she is excited for me - especially because right before FH & I started dating my family tried to convince me it was a bad idea. I am happy she wants to be involved... but.... why can't she just accept it when I tell her what I want?? Why does she have to suggest something different? How do I tell her, nicely, that although I appreciate the suggestions, when I say, "This is what I want." It's what I want. Not, "I'm not really sure what I want. Please, give me more suggestions." (When I make up my mind about something, it happens. I've always been this way, I've never been one who constantly needs more ideas.)