Ideas for asking bridesmaids?

mmrtx

Looking for cute (not-super-expensive) ideas on how to ask my friends to be bridesmaids - what did you guys do?  What went over really well?  Thanks!

AutumnFair

I like pretty much anything from a simple phone call to homemade cards that has a heartfelt note in it. To me it's not about the how to be ask but the simple action of just being asked. So if you really want to save some cash-ola just give them a call, sometimes its great feeling to hear people's reaction to being asked.

SSaltzman87

Take them out to lunch or just ask them in person? It doesn't need to be a big deal AT ALL.

Like AutumnFair said, what's important is being asked, not how you ask.

trix1223

Call them up and ask them.  Go out for a cup of coffee and ask them.

The wedding industry would have you believe that everything, EVERY SINGLE THING, about your wedding must be creative, unique, clever, memorable, one-of-a-kind, and special, or your  wedding won't be a success.  And that's just not true.

The wedding industry will also, between today and the day you return from your honeymoon, try to convince you to spend money on "stuff" you don't need to, and that won't make all that much of a difference.

And this is one of them.  Not everything has to be a big old production.  Wedding TV shows, magazines, and websites that promote such ideas are in it to make money.  And that means buying stuff from their vendors.

Will your friends/family really feel more special if they get a card with a cutesy poem on it, or a cookie shaped like a BM dress?  Probably not.

Call up your friends and ask them.  And then enjoy the "squeee" of excitement as they agree!  Good luck, and happy planning.

garcias1

If you are looking for cheap options, get them cards.  I got one from my friend, and I'm sure you can find some online.  But like PPs said, it's really not necessary.  The act of being asked to be a BM was more exciting to me than the card.

specialk84

I just called my cousin and told her about the engagement.  After the shrieking stopped, I just said, "I would be really happy if you would be my maid of honor."  More shrieking, followed by an enthusiastic agreement.

ABehrens1

Most of my BMs are from out-of-town, so I made them cards, put in a cute poem, wrote a note and included a picture of the two of us. They all really seemed to like it It can be whatever you want. I wanted to do a little more than just a phone call, so that's what I did. I agree with Trix though, don't buy things or do things that aren't "you". There is a lot of money to be thrown around in the wedding industry, but in the end, what are people going to remember, and, most importantly, what are YOU going to remember?

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Just call them if they are out of state or ask them in person if they are nearby. I don't buy into the wedding industry's cards and letters and all that jazz.

vinnyv11

I bought a cute litlte picture frame on clearance that said something cute about friends, and then where the picture should have been I put scrap booking stickers that said Will you stand by me on my wedding day?

For my fmil I wrote Will you be my bridesmaid? on an easter egg, and gave it her at easter.

mstar284

I know a lot of people were against this idea when I posted it a while back. They warned me not to do it, but we all met for lunch (as we typically do), and I just kind of asked them all at once at the table. I said, "....it would be an honor if you guys would be my bridesmaids. You don't have to answer now. Just think about it." But of course they all freaked out and said yes right then.

JennaV26

I made it a big deal. I got them all cute cards that said "Will you be my Bridesmaid" and then I did different things for each girl. One I got a bouquet of flowers and stopped by her house, one I wrote a little poem (um, it was actually a rap.. long story) and put it in a frame, one I put a collage together of pictures of us, etc.

On the other hand one of my friends just recently asked me to be a BM and she just called and asked but I couldn't have been more excited! 

bwisco123

I made each of my girls a small collage of pics of us - then a big speech bubble from one of me saying "Be my Bridesmaid?" and cut it up into a puzzle.  I mailed it to them so when they opened it they got their puzzle to put together and a little note with a more heart felt message... they all loved it and thought it was super clever :-)

Whippet8

I asked each of my girls individually, and that worked really well. I feel like having them all together in one place would have been strange in the first place. Two of them I asked together, one while at lunch, another I asked while in a bar, and two I had to call because our schedules didn't match up.

My friend recently asked me to be a bridesmaid, and we were literally standing in her doorway with our dogs running around, and I was just as excited as if she had asked me in some "special" way.

TheKnittingJedi

I asked my sister to be my MOH while we were having lunch with our mum, and I called my friend to ask her to be my other bridesmaid. She was out-of-state or else I would have asked her in person, too.