MOH help!

aross23

Hi girls....so I need some help. I was engaged before (2007) and my MOH from then....well lets just say that A LOT has happened since then and our relationship is not what it use to be. It's to the point where I do not feel comfortable asking her to be my MOH. She is in my wedding, but not my MOH. Now, I am closer with 2 of my other BM's and I am debating on who to ask. I had one in mind, but then I don't want to hurt the others feelings (p.s. the 2 of them are friends). So it makes it very hard. Do I have both of them? Do I just have the one? Also...it is awkward that I am not asking my one from before. Even though I know its not right to ask her...it's just hard because she really does know ME....my likes, dislikes, etc. AHH HELP! What do I do?

Summer2011Bride

I don't think it's odd you aren't asking your previous MOH as, like you said, relationships can change over time. However, if you are only having three girls in your WP, which it sounds like from your post, I would not have two MOH's. That would really be single-ing out the third girl. I would just go with one MOH--whoever you feel closest to, and it sounds like you already have one you are wanting to ask. OR just forego an MOH. Any BM who wants to can make a toast at your wedding and one of them can still hold your flowers, etc. An MOH isn't necessary, esp. if you think it will cause hurt feelings or you just can't choose.

aross23

Hi. Thanks I am actually having 8 BM. So does that change your thoughts in any way? It's weird bc the one I'm thinking of not picking... I somewhat feel closer to, but it's like a motherly/advisor type close relationship. Where the other one I wanna ask is a more girly type relationship. I just don't want the other ones feelings to get hurt.

Bride2687

If the thought of chooisng a MOH is just too much or you feel stuck or like you don't want to hurt someone's feelings, etc., then just don't have a MOH.  There is no rule that states that you must have a MOH in your wedding party.  

em01092

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_moh-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:2ee0ad1b-f214-40c0-8e3f-5a36f8b7b3a9Post:e8bad3e2-fe4d-4161-b03a-2c70d766e1a3">Re: MOH help!</a>:
[QUOTE]New engagement, new wedding - feel free to pick a new wedding party. Don't ask anyone more than six months out. As you've seen, relationships can change.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

<div>What if it's to the same guy? </div><div>
</div><div>A friend of mine broke off her engagement for about 3 weeks, had a quick fling, then got back with her FI, worked things out, and the wedding is back on.  Is it safe to assume I'm still a BM? I'd be kinda pissed if she asked someone else in my place due to all of this, but I'd understand if she did away with BMs or only had a MOH. </div><div>
</div><div>I don't mean to threadjack, just wondering. </div>