Mother of Groom to Outshine Bride?

amandave

Okay so I night just be having a momentary freak out but I’m convinced my FMIL’s dress will outshine mine at the wedding. I’ve always wanted to feel like the most beautiful well dressed woman at my wedding and I’m already worrying about the dress she picked out. She refuses to get a new dress so all that leaves is for me to accept it or altering my dress to stand out more (Obviously has been hard for me to just accept it) . I was going for the simplicity factor but with her dress now in play I don’t think mine will look elegant enough for the occasion. Any opinions on either dress are welcome (and ideas to alter mine).

Thank you for the help.

zitiqueen

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[QUOTE]Okay so I night just be having a momentary freak out but I’m convinced my FMIL’s dress will outshine mine at the wedding. I’ve always wanted to feel like the most beautiful well dressed woman at my wedding and I’m already worrying about the dress she picked out. She refuses to get a new dress so all that leaves is for me to accept it or altering my dress to stand out more (Obviously has been hard for me to just accept it) . I was going for the simplicity factor but with her dress now in play I don’t think mine will look elegant enough for the occasion. Any opinions on either dress are welcome (and ideas to alter mine). Thank you for the help.
Posted by amandave[/QUOTE]

Of course she refuses to get a new dress -- you are way out of line in trying to dictate how a non-bridal party member adult dresses for your wedding.

I've yet to attend a wedding where anybody outshines the woman in the white dress who is standing at the front of the church.

MairePoppy

Your dress is absolutely beautiful. I'm assuming that you chose it because you love it. Don't worry that anyone else will outshine you at your own wedding.

kimiandgary

Did you show her a pic of your dress before she went shopping? I can totally see similarities between the two and its strange to me.

That said, she will not outshine you! You will have a bridal glow and be gorgeous.

amandave

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[QUOTE]Did you show her a pic of your dress before she went shopping? I can totally see similarities between the two and its strange to me. That said, she will not outshine you! You will have a bridal glow and be gorgeous.
Posted by kimiandgary[/QUOTE]

She did see my dress before hand, I agree on seeing similarities as well! (though see 'can't see them'). She asked me to approve the dress she wanted to get and sent me a 'similar' dress that I said was fine, the dress she ordered though (pictured) is different in a lot of areas.
I was unsure about the dress not being nice enough to begin with and now this is just adding to it.

On a side note congrats on being so close to your big day!

MairePoppy

You could try a sash or a brooch if you want to add some detail to the dress. But I don't think your FMIL is going to out shine you, either way.

saacjw

DId she maybe pick a dress that was similar because she thinks her dress should go with yours? I know my mom had that mentality so she was focusing on dresses that had similar elements to mine. Like she was seriously obsessed with it. 

That being said, she won't upstage you at all. 

Chelseaclayy

Your dress is beautiful! If she is not wearing a white dress and a veil, then she will not outshine you.

willywally5

She will not outshine you ... hardly anyone will pay any mind at all to what she is wearing! Your dress is lovely and you will be radiant! 

Simply Fated

Honestly? That dress is gorgeous, but that is a model at a professional photo shoot wearing that dress. Your FMIL is not going to look like that. She won't outshine you. Underneath that glossy hair and airbrushed make-up, all I see is a typical mother-of-the-bride dress.

Feel better?

cscheela

very pretty dresses, both of them.... I wouldn't worry too much about it, she probably just wants an excuse to dress up

jnjmommy0609

She will not outshine you. Period. Don't be so insecure. Think of all the positives and move on.

MrsKathyC

If anything, people will think she's overdressed, not that she outshines you!  Your dress is beautiful. I personally don't even like the blue dress.   Don't give it another thought!

(btw, my MIL showed up in polyester pants, t-shirt and loafers)

Summer2011Bride

You both have beautiful dresses. You should not have asked her to get a different dress. She isn't wearing a big white dress, so no one will mistake her for the bride, nor will she outshine you. Just as you want to look gorgeous on your wedding, she also wants to wear a dress that makes her feel beautiful and comfortable, even though she isn't the bride. Anybody, guest, MOB, MOG, etc., would want the same thing, especially if they will be in lots of pictures. Let her wear the dress she likes.

lindseyann410

I don't get worrying about this at all.  It's not like she's wearing a wedding dress.  I have a friend who is absolutely goregous.  She could show up to my wedding in a garbage bag and still be the most beautiful person there.  I' just focusing on what is going to make me look and feel my best.  

Your dress is beautiful.....having a good attitude and a smile will make you even more beautiful!

mcskatcat

Sweetie, that MOG dress looks like every other mother's dress out there.  No one can upstage the bride - I think you're overthinking it.  

artbyallie

Dude, unless her dress is WHITE, there's no way any one upstages a bride.

secondtimemob

I  love your dress!  Unless your wedding is super formal, your MIL might look overdressed, in my opinion.  In my area, the moms aren't usually going for that glamorous of a look!

amandave

You ladies all rule! Thank you so much for the opinions and support the crazy is subsiding a bit hahaha. I'll just try to focus on the moment, not who's wearing what.
Thank you all again!!

whitneymarie504

My Grandma owns a bridal and mothers dress store and that dress looks very similar to quite a few of them I've seen. It is on the more formal end but certainly not over the top for a mothers dress. I definately don't think she will outshine you!!!

pomundson0

LOVING what Simply Fated said ;D  I nearly shot soda out of my nose

I can see how you might have some concerns, but I'm going to echo everyone here  You're the bride, the one in white, the queen for the day.  You will look stunning in your dress (that I love btw), and nobody can take that away from you  Be glad she didn't pick what my mom first picked out before we found her something different... something involving sunflowers and shoulderpads... >.<