I was raised "Cafeteria Catholic" (we choose what we like and have our own relationships with God) and FI's family is VERY catholic (church every Sunday, pray at meals, etc.). I am fairly spritual but don't do mass and FI is agnostic. Problem is, FI hasn't told his family about his beliefs - we have even been going to mass with them every Sunday we were there. They have been asking him if our outdoor wedding plans are Catholic friendly (we are having a non-religious ceremony per my FI's wishes so....no). He finally told them we're not having a priest at the wedding. Their response was that a full Catholic wedding (church, priest, and all) was "important to them." His parents were going to discuss it, then discuss it with us. This was about a week ago, and we have yet to hear back from them. This wait is causing me A LOT of anxiety!
My family is ok with it and has already set aside some funds for the wedding. Money has not been discussed at all on his side so now we don't have any idea if they a.) are still excited for our marriage and b.) want to emotionally or financially participate at all! We will be happy to make whatever budget we have work (ourselves and my family), but as I try to keep planning it would be nice to know if they would like to contribute anything. I even had nightmeres about them cutting him out of their lives all together!
Has anyone out there encountered this? How did it work out? Does anyone have any advice about how to further approach the situation?