Hello,
I am having the hardest time trying to choose my MOH. I have narrowed it down to two wonderful options and can't decide. HELP!
Background:
My mom is planning my bridal shower and I'm having a destination wedding, so my MOH might be pretty lucky as far as her role in the wedding- I'm not asking her for much. Basically, I would like someone to go dress shopping with me, help me make the tough decisions, and to stand by as emotional support.
Option 1: KG: While KG is my oldest and closest friend (most like a sister to me) she lives on the opposite side of the country. She will most likely not be available for most of the pre-wedding events like dress shopping, etc, and definitely won't be available for those last-minute, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants moments. However, she seems to be the most natural choice. She's been around the longest and I know I could trust her to be great the "Day Of," even if she'd be unavailable most of the time before the wedding.
Option 2: AM: AM was one of my fiance's best friends through middle, high school, and college. I met her in college shortly after I met my fiance. She has been a great friend to both of us ever since. Also, she is my closest friend these days, especially considering she is local and my other close girl friends live so far away. She has definitely been around the most for the wedding planning I have done so far, and has already sort of taken on the role of MOH when it comes to the emotional responsibilities; she's been there so far every step of the way. I would love to have her as MOH, especially considering the close relationship she's had with my fiance all these years. However, she has been known to be a bit of a flake in the past. At random times in recent history she's been known to just take off on a moment's notice, not to be seen again for weeks. I don't think she'd do this while I was planning my wedding, but then again, the notion that she could worries me enough to make me think twice about asking her. She has never been the most responsible person in the world, but I'm 90% sure she would pull through considering this is a very important event and she knows that.
So, my choice is difficult: Do I choose my oldest, closest girlfriend even though she would not be present except for the day of the wedding (and possibly a few days before) or do I choose my newer (yet still close) friend who might flake out of responsibilities here and there? (Remember, I don't plan on making my MOH responsible for very much regardless.)
What would you do?? Thanks for your help!!