So my FMIL asked me a few months ago for some suggestions for the rehearsal dinner, i choose a few places that are different (a local restaurant, a pasta bar, a little cosy italian restaurant etc.) Reason being i wanted it to be casual, no stress and not a 5 course meal like the following night. She didn't go with my suggestions and choose somewhere else. She asked me to go with her to see it last night. I did and had mentioned that the restaurants bar menu (lobster rolls, sandwiches, etc) was very good thinking that was why we were going. When I met her there, she was looking at a 5 course menu.
I realized we weren't on the same page, tried to explain and it just didn't go well. My FI was there, and just sat there which made me more frustrated. By the time we got home i had just taken a few deep breaths and decided to email her and explain that her decision was fine, and i'm sure it would be a great party...
In doing so i explained to my FI that i didn't really feel i needed to be involved in the rehearsal dinner as his mom was so adament it was her party. now he is mad.
I feel like no matter what decision i made (whether i stuck with the casual dinner i wanted, or just let her plan) i wasn't going to win.
why did she invite me if she didn't really want my opinion? and is it fair now to just take a step back and let her plan? it's no longer my vision and i'm okay with that, but i don't feel i need to help plan it. or am i looking at this all wrong? help!