My first baby is getting married. I requested some time alone with her to bond and share a special mother-daughter time picking out her dress. Otherwise I do what she tells me to do, I offer ideas, offer to pay, offer to help. I raised her alone. I was mom and dad to her.
I didn't make much money and I didn't get child support after her father abandoned us. But I sacrificed and made sure she had everything she needed and some of what she wanted. All I wanted was to have some time to celebrate, just mother and daughter.
I provided everything for her, I taught her, I helped her, I bailed her out and supported her even when she was, even by her own admission, in the wrong.
The groom didn't ask for my blessing and I feel has no respect for me either. He tells his own mother to "f off" and "shut up."
Now, she is totally disregarding me and telling me that I'm unreasonable and that I need to just deal with it, while she takes her soon to be MIL. I'm very hurt and think I should just back off altogether. She has complained about this MIL many, many times, but if I even respond to what she has said, I'm the one being rude and "not getting along."
When I tell her I'm hurt, she tells me to stop making it about me, that it's really all about her and her fiance.
What do I do?