Dealing with bridezilla

ellomate13

Hello! I just need some advice before I go crazy and get more stressed out! I'm currently the maid of honor to a bridezilla! her wedding is a few weeks and things aren't getting easier. in her mind, the perfect wedding means the perfect marriage, which means if things are perfect, she isn't happy. One thing that bugged me was that she continues to tell all of the bridesmaids that our hair can't possibly be down, since hers is. One of the bridesmaids has short hair (so down's the only way she can wear it) and the look on the brides to be face was complete horror, like she told her the worst thing. The bride even told me that she didn't want a flower girl because she didn't want the attention on the flower girl and not her. She seems to expect all of us to shell out money for her, though we are all still in college. She wants a limo for her bachelorette party, bridal lingerie for a gift and etc. She even told me I was picked as Maid of Honor because she didn't want to give the burden to her seventeen year old sister, even though this future bride completley ignored our friendship for the past two years, after she met this guy. 

Ah! Sorry this is long, but I'm just growing irritated and stressed out. Any advice on how to deal with this bridezilla? 

erinlin25

yuck, not fun for you!  I'd remind her that unless she is paying for certain things she cannot demand you do certain things (a certain hair type, limo, etc).  If you would like to do those things for her, that is very nice of you and I hope she appreciates it, but you are no means obligated to do anything other than wear the dress agreed upon the bridal party and be there the day of the wedding.  How crazy can a bride be when she's afraid people will steal her spotlight... she's the bride!  Sorry you have to deal with her.  I'd just lay low and try to avoid her as much as possible if that is an option.  Maybe you and the other girls can ban together and try to talk some sense into her.  In no way will someone wearing their hair down take any attention from her (unless you guys all wear mowhawks and dye your hair bright pink   now thats an up-do!)  Bridesmaids need to communicate and stick together on this one so you have a united front.  Although I agree that she is way out of line, you need to decide if the things she is asking you to do are worth the drama.  If you guys can't afford the limo and gifts don't be afraid to tell her.  She has no say in her parties--those are a gift in itself, so just plan what you can and she can either accept it/appreciate it or decline it and get nothing.  And if she really doesn't want anyone stealing attention you can remove yourself from being a bridesmaid and then there will be no wedding party to take attention away from her.   Hang in there! 

MairePoppy

It's okay to say 'no.' Let the bride know that you and the other bms can't afford her fantasy bp. Explain what you have planned and if she doesn't like your offer, then she can get decline and hope someone else step up. I don't know where some brides get the idea that they are entitled to full access of their friends' funds.

Tell the bride you are not comfortable wearing your hair up and leave it at that. If she brings it up, change the subject. Since the wedding is a few weeks away, you should be able to avoid her until absolutely necessary.

Some brides wonder why their bms won't return their calls. Your post might help them understand. Thanks for that.

ETA - The bms are not obligated to plan the bp or a shower, so your friend should be grateful for anything you offer.