bridesmaid help...

JordanMarie71489

So I asked my sister to be my M.O.H and she was super excited and said yes yes yes and we were both happy... then i realized she recently got her septum pierced and has snake bite lip piercings... How can I ask her to remove/switch to clear plastic for the wedding without sounding like a bridezilla? I love that they are part of her and would be totally fine with clear ones but idk how to bring it up to her without sounding bitchy or insensitive... thanks

AddieCake

If you love that they are part of her, why would you need her to take them out for the wedding?  

My husband has facial piercings, and he opted to take them out for the ceremony but put them back in for the reception. I told him I was fine with it if he left them in, though. They are, after all, part of him, and I knew that before our wedding day. 

artbyallie

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[QUOTE]So I asked my sister to be my M.O.H and she was super excited and said yes yes yes and we were both happy... then i realized she recently got her septum pierced and has snake bite lip piercings... <strong>How can I ask her to remove/switch to clear plastic for the wedding without sounding like a bridezilla?</strong> I love that they are part of her and would be totally fine with clear ones but idk how to bring it up to her without sounding bitchy or insensitive... thanks
Posted by JordanMarie71489[/QUOTE]

<div>The answer to your question is you can't, because it is inherently a bridezilla thing to do. You picked her because you love her, not because of her looks. The only thing you can do is get over it because it's seriously not a big deal.</div>

[Deleted User]

You can't without sounding like a bridezilla and possibly really offending your bridesmaid. If you love them as a part of her, don't you want all of her (her body modification choices included) in your picture?

FWIW, I don't have many piercings (3 in each ear), but I'd be offended if someone asked me to take them out. My mom didn't even try to get me to take out my tragus (which she's not a fan of) for my own wedding - she just asked if I was going to get a different style to match the rest of my wedding jewelry more.

Maggie0829

If you love the way she is on a regular day, why are you not happy with her piercings for your wedding day?

Asking her to change her appearance to suit your vision for your wedding is rude.

Peledreamsofrain

Only bridezillas obsess over physical features of their bridal party and try to change them to please themselves. So if you aren't a bridezilla, leave her be. If you are, don't worry about trying not to look like one, it will be obvious through actions and choices.

pink34562000

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[QUOTE]So I asked my sister to be my M.O.H and she was super excited and said yes yes yes and we were both happy... then i realized she recently got her septum pierced and has snake bite lip piercings... How can I ask her to remove/switch to clear plastic for the wedding without sounding like a bridezilla? I love that they are part of her and would be totally fine with clear ones but idk how to bring it up to her without sounding bitchy or insensitive... thanks
Posted by JordanMarie71489[/QUOTE]

What is more important to you? (1) Your sister's feelings and her being in your WP (2) Or, your bridal party looking like a J Crew catalog. If you bring up the piercings to your sister, no matter how nice you say it, you will sound like a bridezilla. Let your sister make the decision about <strong>her</strong> piercings.

One of my bridesmaid have tattoos, and I never once asked her to cover them. She had the option of showing them off or covering them up. Again, she made that decision, and I never brought up the topic.

Amsdragonfly

I agree with PP, if you dont want to be a bridezilla, dont ask her to take them out. 

Lisag72

I don't think your being a bridezilla if you ask her to remove the piercings. This is YOUR day..They will be YOUR wedding pictures to look back on for years to come. You have every right to request certain things ..It's not like your asking her to cut her hair.. Do what you feel you need to make this your perfect day !

londonlamb

I had this same thing happen with my BM but i only had issue with one of her piercings. I had started to ask if she could at least change it to the color scheme of the rest of her jewlery,at least for pictures. She knows that im not big on piercings and volenteered to take them out or flip it up to hide them (she has that one that goes through the bottom of your nose). You never know you might luck out like i did.