Tattoos

benmel31

One of my bridesmaids has a huge tattoo across her back as well.  She offered to cover it up.  I said it was up to her.  It does not make any difference to me if her tattoo is showing.  She got the tat for a reason and if she is comfortable that is fine.  In the end, most people are not going to be paying attention to her and her back.  It is not like there are going to be that many pictures of her back.  To me, this is a non-issue.  

FYI: she is not covering it up.

californiadreamin07

My sister, who's my MOH, has 2 tattoos on her arms, and she actually requested that the only thing I do is get a dress that covered her tats.  However, her reasoning is that one of them is a picture of our brother who died, and she prefers not to explain it to everyone.

I think that you've gotten a lot of good advice, but I think the consensus that you can't ask is probably correct.  If she offers, that's great, but I don't think you can ask her without hurting her feelings.

JeFlanigan

Darlin' clearly you missed my thread about covering my own tattoo... opinions ran loud on that.  In a nut shell... you can ask her to cover the tattoo, but I wouldn't suggest it.  And Kat von D was recommended to me if i wanted to cover my tattoo by girls on here, and the artist who did my tattoo)

jamjar11

LOL this thread is hilarious to me, only because I can't imagine someone being so selfish as to want to hide parts of their friends and loved ones.

All 3 of my BMS are tattooed everywhere you look. One has a quarter sleeve on one arm and several on her calves, another has a full back piece, pentagrams on her collar bones, several on her arms, and nearly her entire calves. My MOH has a large one on her chest, one on her arm, and two on her calves/ankles. I'll actually be the one out of place up there, as I have no visible tattoos.

One of my BMs (the one with the pentagrams on her chest) asked me when we went shopping for BM dresses for the first time if I was going to want them to cover up. I laughed so hard people in David's Bridal were looking at me funny. I hadn't even thought about it before she asked me.

They are my BMs because I love them, and that means I love all of them, tattoos and all. I wouldn't want to hide anything about them for a second. 

On a side note, they might end up wearing a jacket or shawl anyway for part of the night just because the wedding is in February and it will get chilly at night. But that's their choice, for warmth purposes only.

ddeanna1986

Instead of asking my girls to cover up the tattoo's, I asked my photographer to edit them out of my formal group photos that I  choose to order.

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_tattoos?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:618eb63f-649d-42d8-9a22-db6d23d66affPost:87358483-a401-4fcf-945b-1624ca78ab26">Re: Tattoos</a>:
[QUOTE]Instead of asking my girls to cover up the tattoo's, I asked my photographer to edit them out of my formal group photos that I  choose to order.
Posted by ddeanna1986[/QUOTE]
That's horrifying.  If you didn't like the way a person's hair color looked in the pictures, would you ask your photographer to change that, too?  Unbelievable.  Your wedding album is not a magazine shoot, get over yourself.

TheCranberry

I don't think it's that bad to ask her to cover the tattoos (either with a wrap or makeup).  Just be respectful about it, and if she says no, she says no.  I like the idea of shawls that all of the BM's wear or if you pay for the make-up artist to do airbrush.  It's not a permanent change, it's not diffcult or expensive, it won't damage her skin or the tattoo.  I wouldn't be offended if someone asked me to cover a tattoo or remove a piercing.

trix1223

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_tattoos?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:618eb63f-649d-42d8-9a22-db6d23d66affPost:07e51710-f472-464f-b454-4983b6e5ae38">Re: Tattoos</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tattoos : That's horrifying.  If you didn't like the way a person's hair color looked in the pictures, would you ask your photographer to change that, too?  Unbelievable.  Your wedding album is not a magazine shoot, get over yourself.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

ditto aerin.  I think that photoshopping someone who you claim to be a friend is appalling.

Will you also enhance your less-endowed friends?  Or perhaps just tweak that nose that's a smidge too big?  Maybe make all your BM's look like they're a size 2?

Where exactly does it stop?  You might have photos of a "perfect" wedding.  Too bad it won't be reflective of your REAL wedding.

Alanda1318

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_tattoos?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:618eb63f-649d-42d8-9a22-db6d23d66affPost:07e51710-f472-464f-b454-4983b6e5ae38">Re: Tattoos</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tattoos : That's horrifying.  If you didn't like the way a person's hair color looked in the pictures, would you ask your photographer to change that, too?  Unbelievable.  Your wedding album is not a magazine shoot, get over yourself.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]
Agreed! if I saw those pictures of my tattoos airbrushed out I would be outraged. If you wanted a Vogue wedding you should have hired models that met your specifications.

jamjar11

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_tattoos?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:618eb63f-649d-42d8-9a22-db6d23d66affPost:897811ba-cdb7-44a0-ae8d-6b6c6f74a63c">Re: Tattoos</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tattoos :\. Will you also enhance your less-endowed friends?  Or perhaps just tweak that nose that's a smidge too big?  Maybe make all your BM's look like they're a size 2? \
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

<div>Dude,,, I'd do all that to my own pics first! LOL.</div>

sophs_ro

Haha, if someone asked me to cover up all my tattoos i'd basically have to wear a bin bag to their wedding  

If someone asked me though i would be a bit offended but i'd probably do it but i'd definately sulk, which would be worse, a picture of a smiley BM with tattoos of a sulky BM in a bin bag? lol

I would be absolutely outraged if someone airbrushed out my tattoos though. That would be a friendship breaking move to me.

AutumnFair

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_tattoos?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:618eb63f-649d-42d8-9a22-db6d23d66affPost:87358483-a401-4fcf-945b-1624ca78ab26">Re: Tattoos</a>:
[QUOTE]Instead of asking my girls to cover up the tattoo's, I asked my photographer to edit them out of my formal group photos that I  choose to order.
Posted by ddeanna1986[/QUOTE]

<div>FYI, most the time photographers charge extra for editing that stuff out because its a time consuming and tedious process.</div><div>
</div><div>Ditto to aerin, they are your friends, you love and care about them not their physical appearance.</div>

troublejessy

I was recently the MOH in a wedding and the bride asked me to cover the tattoo on my foot.  It seriously was not a big deal.  I wasn't offended at all.  I think that you know your friends better than anyone and can best judge how she will react.  We used one of those tattoo cover kits and it worked really well. 

ddeanna1986

I love my girls.  They know that I have chosen to do this and accept it! If you get a tattoo that you can cover up by business clothes, you obviously know that tattoos have a time and place. They will not be edited out of ALL of my photos. This is just another suggestion instead of providing an inconvenience to your girls with make-up cover-up or a shawl. To each his own!