I am in a wedding with 7 BM and no MOH. I am throwing the shower and another BM decided to throw a "surprise" bachelorette party. The bride has found out about the activities planned for the bachelorette party and doesn't want to do any of it! She doesn't even want to go! She's not a wild person and would like to just have a relaxing day. She asked me to talk to the other BM so I sent her an email (I can never get her on the phone) and she sent back a nasty response to me basically saying to butt out and don't try to take over her plans. I was hoping to take care of this without stressing the bride out but I don't know how else to get the other BM to listen! Ugh! I want the bride to enjoy her party but I'm afraid she's going to be miserable. It's like the BM planned the party for what she wants to do and didn't think about what the bride wants. So frustrating!