Bridesmaid

matt&brit

I need advice, I have a really great friend who I have been planning on using as a BM but her wedding is one month before mine. We both want to be in each others weddings but I wanted to ask how everyone felt about that?

Amt2109

Just ask her. Only she can decide if she has the time/resources to commit to your wedding also.

Best case scenario: You ask her, she says yes, you have another of your best friends standing up with you on your day.

Worst case scenario: You ask her, she says no, she can't manage it - but at least she knows you cared enough to ask and leave the choice up to her.

Good luck.

CassieeK

I agree.  That's an individual situation whether or not someone has time, money, etc to participate!

Muffin'sMom

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[QUOTE]Just ask her. Only she can decide if she has the time/resources to commit to your wedding also. Best case scenario: You ask her, she says yes, you have another of your best friends standing up with you on your day. Worst case scenario: You ask her, she says no, she can't manage it - but at least she knows you cared enough to ask and leave the choice up to her. Good luck. :)
Posted by Amt2109[/QUOTE]

This....

vicki0508

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[QUOTE]I need advice, I have a really great friend who I have been planning on using as a BM but her wedding is one month before mine. <strong>We both want to be in each others weddings but I wanted to ask how everyone felt about that</strong>?
Posted by matt&brit[/QUOTE]
Since you both want to be BMs in the other's wedding, I don't know why you need internet strangers to tell you it's ok.  Just do it.

em01092

Maybe say "asking" instead of "using?" It makes a BM sound like a prop. =D

graffeo

I got married april 9th my MOH got married May 1st I was her Matron of honor She had asked me a million times if it was ok to get married that soon after. I said i only get one day and if may 1 makes u happy then i will be tehre as Matron of honor with a huge smile on my face. We did talk aboit how we could not take on aas much resposiblity as we would have liked for eachothers weddings. Undertandable. We also did a joint Bach party. Which was really fun!!

Maggie0829

ASK HER.  It is a whole month!  It isn't like your weddings are the day after each other.  If she can't afford it or if she will be away on her HM she will let you know.