my mom, as some of you know, decided to hate my dress before seeing it purely because i picked it out when my dad and sister were with me and not her (they have been divorced for 23 years, him happily remarried, she s not remarried). I thought we had agreed to leave it alone and not talk about it but apprently i was wrong.
it started with a slew of insane text messages while she was watching "say yes to the dress" about how everyone is on her about hating my dress ( i only spoke to my grandma about how i was feeling but told her it wasn't a huge deal) and how my father is stealing the wedding from her because he's agreed to pay for it. then she apologized and told me to forget about it because she didn't want to hurt my feelings.
i got out to my car the other morning and there was an envelope stuffed full of passive agressive crazy on my windshield. there was a long letter about how she can't belive i'm going to be wearing a dress she hates and doesn't look good on me. she says that because she did the whole "single working mom" thing and my dad wasn't around much when i was a kid ,and that he's buying me off with my wedding, she should get to be there for all the big choices. I don't really care who is there for these "big moments" or who is paying as long as we can keep this as smooth sailing as we can. She's not paying for anythin and i've never asked her to but she wants VP on all the choicesi make. now she wants a response and i just can't give her one.
i have never been so mad at her passive agressive bu!!$hit before. i just can't trust myself to respond without going bat$hit crazy on her. she's making me hate my wedding planning. How do i respond to this without making it ten times worse? i don't want to be a B1tch but this is the last time i want to deal with her crazy in my wedding. i've stopped talking about it completly to her but she's so hung up on not liking my dress that she is making me and everyone else miserable.