when my fiance and i set our date a year and a half ago, i asked my then close friend to be my maid of honor. unfortunately, in between then and now, our friendship has altered quite a bit. when we talk, it's to talk about her, not me, much less my wedding. she's not that e (enthused to be a part of it (or rather, she wants the glory and none of the work!). if we do talk, it's to complain about how she doesn't want to pay for shoes. She complains that "no one will see them" and that she is broke after buying the tools and supplies to build a deck and won't have any money until after the wedding. also, we don't hang out much anymore so i don't feel like she should be m.o.h. the last time we actually hung out outside of work was several months ago.
not to mention the bridal shower and bachelorette party. she, i hate to say, is lacking in creativity to make it fun. i asked her if she had any ideas for games and she said she had snakes and ladders in the closet. not only this, for the bachelorette party, she's being so cheap, that she wants to use her half-drunk alcohal that she and her boyfriend have already dipped into as well as beer she has brought home from the check out rooms from the hotel she works at.
on the other hand, my sister in law and my friend, have been a great help to me and we talk frequently. she's also so enthusiastic to help me plan the wedding and she's definately got creativity.
how can i tell my current m.o.h. that i still want her as a bridesmaid, but i feel our friendship has changed so much and she's not as supportive as i need my m.o.h. to be that i feel she shouldn't be m.o.h.?