This is slightly different from other "my bridesmaids aren't helping me" whines. SO hear me out.
I'm having a little difficulty getting my bridesmaids involved. It's not so much that i expect theirconstant help and attention planning, they've provided feedback on a few things and i'm fine doung stuff on my own, but they seem very uninterested in talking to each other, and I feel bad that one BM is forced to MOH "duties" because the MOH isn't all that interested.
There are defintiely reasons for the lack of involvement, one BM just moved to the city and has a 1 year old daughter, but she doens't work. My MOH lives in a different state altogether, and just had her wedding in May. I completely understand their situations, but to not even return an email from my other BM just to settle on plans for the party makes me feel like i have to defend their behavior, like i picked "bad friends" for these roles. I think its' the lack of communication and certain statements ("i just want to have a month where i don't talk about weddings, so i'm not going to order your BM dress until July") that makes me feel like i'm a big inconvenience.
I've asked the MOH if she'd rather the active BM just handled these parties and what not, since she's wedding-ed out and busy with work, but she specifically said she wanted to be involved. So now what? Do i just take it as it is and let the one active BM continue to struggle with the other 2 on her own? Since she's never met them, i feel responsible for getting these other 2 at least on board with helping her, nevermind working with me.