My mom doesn't want a "fuddy- duddy" corsage

asialee2

My mom is very modern and i hate to say it but she is smokin- people think she is my sister... so needless to say she doesn't want a typical corsage as she finds them to be old fashioned, frumpy and very "Fuddy- Duddy," (I have to agree!)  What are some other modern options to make her stand out as my momma?

courtney1188

What kind of flowers and colors will you and the WP have?

ootmother2

I also hate fuddy duddy corsages!

Both the MOG & I carried nosegays with baby white roses and freesia.  Loved them!

kellya01

You can take the frills out of the mom's corsage -- take out the baby's breath or the leaf that is behind the flower.  I recommend a more modern-looking flower, maybe an oriental Lily or a Tulip... or something that is only a small accent flower in your bouquet. IMO, "fuddy duddy" corsages typically have an older look to them, and removing the baby's breath or leaf behind the flower should achieve the goal of modernizing the corsage.  

SeptemberFall2011

Well...what kind of corsage are you talking about?  My mom and mom-in-law are having wrist corsages.  Maybe you could do a flower in the hair?  A clutch with a little bling?

asialee2

We are doing Mango Callas with Green Spider Mums as accents. We were thinking about a wrist corsage as well... use a fun silver bracelet maybe and get the flowers attached to it???

[Deleted User]

We also did wrist corsages for both of the Mom's and Grandmother's. It is usually a bit more subtle and not as "out there" if you know what I mean. Maybe she would like a wrist corsage vs the traditional pin on one.

SaraAndrew2010

My mom didn't want a corsage either.  The moms are doing very small bouquets to carry.

eandringa

I dont know if your florist has this option but mine has beaded braclets that you can purchase instead of the classic elastic band they normally use for wrist crousages.

skippylouwho

I really didn't want flowers for DD's wedding and don't for DS's wedding but I was told I was/am having them.  I chose a corsage to be pinned on. I didn't want something on my wrist all day & night, I figured that would drive me nuts.  Maybe give her a single rose or orchid to carry? She can lay it on the pew or seat next to her during the ceremony.  Carrying a bouquet would make me feel like a bridesmaid - BUT that's just me.  I didn't want either of my children to spend money on flowers for me, I just felt it wasn't necessary.

lavieboheme73

I'm brainstorming aloud, because I'm right there with your mom...who wants a big flower pinned to their clothes?

Does she have long hair?  It might be a cute alternative to pin the flower in her hair instead of on her chest or around her wrist.  The mango Calla could look really nice that way! 

Or...

What if you did a brooch or another piece of jewelry instead of a flower?  Like PP said, it's not like anyone's going to "forget" she's your mom, and then she'd have something special to keep long after the ceremony.

Just a couple of ideas...

tldh

Does she have hair long enough to pull into a chignon or side ponytail?  Put a great full bloom flower there.

aerinpegadrak

I asked my mom what she wanted.  She preferred a wrist corsage, but I wanted something a little different.  I got my inspiration from this page, specifically the first picture:

http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/wedding-wrist-corsage

There aren't any pictures of my finished product in either of my bios, sadly, but I'll have to dig one up.  The moms were all pretty pleased with them, and when I showed the groomswoman the inspiration picture, she asked to wear one instead of carrying a bouquet.

tenofcups4me

My mom and (now ex-) MIL both carried bouquets at my first wedding. I didn't care for corsages and they both thought they were old-fashioned. I think their bouquets were supposed to be slightly smaller than those the BMs carried, but in the end, I believe they were about the same size, which was fine. 

jerseydevil

Let her carry a bouquet.

Kristin789

wrist corsage
single rose or cala
nosegay
tussy mussy

trix1223

I carried this tussy mussy

http://www.weddingdepot.com/catalog/product_info.php/products_id/625

at mour son and DIL's wedding and then used it again at our DD and SIL's wedding.  I had the charm engraved with our son and DIL's wedding date, and then had the flip side engraved with DD and SIL's wedding date.  When the time comes (if the time comes?) for youngest DD to get married, I'm going to add another charm with her wedding date on it.

Now it resides in my china cabinet.  I really loved it, as I am also a non-corsage person.  Hate pin-ons, and like even less wrist corsages.

lalap69

What about something like this?  I love that it looks like a piece of jewelery.

asialee2

Ohhhh Lalap I think that is something she would like. We have been discussing this back and forth, and she does not want to pin anything on her dress, and she does not want to carry flowers because that "is for the bridal party."  Mom really wants to stand out.. she has started to do some reading up on "the roles of the mother of the bride" and its now a big day for her and I. 

I think she has narrowed it to a wrist corsage... now its down to figuring out the style.  

janicejab

They do make magnetic corsages (instead of sticking a pin through your dress). I would do a simple wrist corsage- a single dramatic flower (like an orchid, dahlia, fugi mum, lily, etc.) and a few greens (bear grass loops, maiden hair fern, ming fern, seeded eucalyptus) can be very pretty and not "fuddy-duddy". I think it starts to look old fashioned when you put a bunch of filler flower in it and have a huge bow. A good florist should be able to give you options that will suit your mom. Maybe look at prom corsages instead of wedding corsages? They are made for younger people and may suit her tastes better.

asialee2

Awesome Thanks Everyone!

beamer84

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[QUOTE]Ask her if she WANTS flowers at all.  I agree about corsages being stuffy.... and I HATE putting a pin through my nice dress. The corsages are pushed by the floral industry....as if anyone is going to "forget" who the mother of the bride is without one.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

In response to the pin comment, we got magnetic corsages. The flowers were attached to a magnet, and there was a second magnet that the woman put on the inside of her dress/top. It held on very well and didn't poke holes in anyone's nice clothes.