My mom loves my fiance and has no problem with us being married, but wants us to elope. She thinks weddings are a giant waste of money and time. She and my dad eloped and she thinks there's nothing wrong with it- and there isn't! Its just not right for us- I want my family there. My whole life I've never been encouraged to dream of a wedding day- my mom thinks its all a show and an awful one at that, no matter the size or budget. But that's what I've realized I really want- we've been together 3 1/2 years and I've had lots of opportunity to elope, and when it came down to deciding it was very emotional for me and I knew I wanted my immediate family there.
Since telling her that we want a small wedding she has called me shallow, materialistic, and brainwashed by the media. Our wedding will be a showy-show of how much money we spent and me posing like a Barbie doll. Basically, I'm a huge disappointment right now (despite pleasing her in every other way possible- about to graduate magna cum laude with my master's degree for goodness' sake!)
Here is the kicker- we want a very small (like 20 guests, mostly family) casual & elegant wedding. I know she and my dad can't foot the whole bill but I don't expect them to- we're paying for most of it anyway. So its not a money thing (really!)- just a hurtful mom thing. Luckily my future MIL is totally supportive and so is my sister and BFF (and, of course, my fiance!).
Is anyone else's mom like this? I sincerely hope I'm not the only one, that's such a depressing thought.