I got engaged in March 2011 and our wedding is in April 2012. When I told her that my fiance proposed, she said, "Oh, congratulations," and then began talking about the color of paint she selected for my grandmother's kitchen.
Since that time, my mother has been completely uninterested in helping me plan my wedding. My parents gave me a sum of money to use for the wedding, which was very generous and I am very grateful, but every time I approach her about wedding-related things, she acts put out. She went to my first wedding dress appointment and wouldn't offer any opinions and kept looking at her watch. When I asked her to go to subsequent appointments, she refused to go. After asking this past time, she told me, "I really, really don't want to do any more wedding dress shopping. You can handle it by yourself."
I have asked her repeatedly for her help and involvement in planning and she's turned me down every time. My dad says she's too busy, but she's always posting pictures on facebook about bike rides and pool parties with her friends. I don't have anyone else to do these things with. My MOH works nights and weekends, my fiance has the same attitude as my mom, and there's no one else. I'm doing this by myself and I feel really rejected and alone. I appreciate the money they gave me, but that wasn't really what I wanted or needed from my mom for my wedding.
Considering I've tried to talk to her several times before, does anyone have any suggestions about how to approach her and drive home the point that I'm overwhelmed, lonely, and that I need her help?