Coronation ceremony?

eospassion

I am a bridesmaid for my older sister. She and I are both getting married this summer at different times and we are bridesmaids for eachother too.

She is really wanting to be a Princess for the day: truly. She wants to be crowned at the wedding ceremony with a tiara. I have tried to explain it to her that it is not appropriate for a wedding since it a wedding is supposed to be about her and her fiance. Our younger sister suggested that perhaps we can do an informal "Coronation" while we're getting her ready with our dad delivering the tiara or something...

Am I being unreasonable? Or is it too much for her to do that?

ElisabethJoanne

Yeah, it's a standard part of the Eastern christian marriage rites, and maybe of other Eastern religions as well, but if she's not having one of those kinds of ceremonies, this needs to be stopped.

Is there an officiant to put his foot down? I could see even a justice of the peace refusing to make a mockery of the service this way, let alone a priest or pastor or rabbi.

nlindsay17

Just when you think you've heard it all.

mbody

The exchanging of rings is sorta like being 'crownded'... only way more important because it's a wedding band that symbolizes eternal love & marriage. Why isn't that enough?

msuprincess04

Except for the situations where the religious custom calls for it, that is ridiculous. Umm. Yeah, it's not JUST the bride's day, I'm pretty sure the groom is supposed to enjoy his day too.

calliopeia2013

Well, but, in the Eastern Orthodox ceremony, the groom is crowned too, and the the priest switches their crowns...and there are no cutesy tiaras.  So even if she were trying to do an Orthodox thing, this would be a pretty gross misinterpretation of it.  This would be totally out of line, and I know I would be appalled if I saw it in a wedding ceremony; it looks incredibly self-centered.

I guess wearing a tiara would be okay, if she put in on before the ceremony; some people do that, right?  I guess if she absolutely won't budge, an informal, pre-ceremony thing is the best compromise.  Can you convince her of how bad it would look if she did it publicly?

Muffin'sMom

Wow...just wow.  And while you're at it...just say NO.

lsvensson

I LOL'd at this.  If your sister insists, your parents don't intervene and the officiant doesn't put his foot down, let her look like an idiot.

GoodLuckBear14

Just out of curiosity, what does her FI think of this?

Viczaesar

Oy vey.

eospassion

Thank you everyone! I know she's not meaning to be selfish or anything, but the statement of it is.

A mutual friend of her and her FI are marrying them, and her future husband will do anything really to make her happy. It's real love, she's just really misguided.

I have talked to her about it, and she just wants to feel special. (the deep rooted emotions and insecurities) Even as a Bride she doesn't feel special Sad. I love her , she's my sister. So far the outlook is fair on convincing her not to do it. Or at the very least, doing the deed in private. Yay!

MDmom2014

I don't think she will feel "special" when all of her guests are talking behind her back about how ridiculous being crowned during her wedding ceremony is. She would probably end up feeling embarassed instead. Someone should really try to explain to her how selfish and immature this would seem to her guests.