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brittanycurtisjohnson

Question about picking WP.

My FI has 3 siblings. All by a different father, one not same mother or father, but a current "stepdad's" son. The only one he is close to is his brother M (12)who shares his same mother but father was never around looked up to him as a father figure before current "stepdad" came around. He has a sister (16 - acts 12), who is rude annoying neither of us can deal with her, and brother P who is the current stepdads kid from previous marriage doesn't care more than likely if he is not included (13). All 3 live with his mom and current step dad.

I have a sister who lives many many states away who of course is going to be my MOH. My only sibling.

I have a best friend who I love dearly and we have stayed connected and talk all the time though she lives many states away also.

Originally we were going to just have 1 person stand up with us, his brother M and my sister. But I really really really want to include my best friend. I DO NOT want his sister up there with me at all.

We have not officaily asked anyone, we are going in circles with this. We can't have 2 with out the 3rd sibling, and we can't use the "just having 1 person stand with us" excuse that would more than likely work.

HELP please.

EK2013

No one can make your FI's sister stand on your side. If your FI wanted her and you didn't, which I know isn't the case here, she should stand on his side.

Since no one wants her in this wedding party, you should have your sister and your best friend. He should have whoever he wants.

Viczaesar

What exactly is the problem with your FI just having his one brother (of the three) and you having your sister and BFF?  How is that having two out of the three siblings, when it's actually two out of four?

jnjmommy0609

Ask your sister and best friend and get it over with. Since they have to fly out they need more time to prepare anyways. It's a wedding and weddings generally bring a lot of stress. If you guys think that the sister will be a handful then just don't include her. Why can't your fiance have friends stand in?

brittanycurtisjohnson

He doesn't have too many super clse friends. He has one but he is like super againts wedding and they are uncomfertable for him. So he knows not to ask that it would not be something he would be interested in.

So he loves his brother but we know if I have 2 his mom (freaking nuts) is probably going to try to get in his brother thats not really his brother (actually he just came to live down here within the past year). Then if the 2 of them are up there his sister will throw a fit that she isn't involved.

Is there something we can have the other 2 Kids do instead of standing up />

MairePoppy

You pick your attendants. He picks his. The sides do not have to be even. It's okay to have a MOH, BM and 1 bridesmaid. Or you could have 2 MsOH and 1 BM.

The other 2  siblings could be ushers or readers, if you want to include them in the ceremony. If you don't want to give them a 'part,' buy them a corsage and bout and let them attend as guests. Don't give them silly jobs, such as guest book attendants or cake servers, please.

brittanycurtisjohnson

I'd have never thought of guest book attendants or cake servers lol. Nor would I trust them with a whole cake haha. They are very immature.
I don't think we are going to do any readings or ushers either. HMmm. I do like the matching flowers thing.

Thanks!

brittanycurtisjohnson

I called and asked my sister and my BFF. So excited! I've decided that if they (FMIL and FSIL) throw a fit then that's thier probem, my girls are my girls for a reason and they wouldn't have thrown a fit if I didn't ask.

Gonna let blow on by!