My FMIL is very nice lady and has welcomed me in her family. When it comes to our wedding, she is very excitable and means well. However, I was discouraged that she wanted a white and black MOG dress even though my dress is also white and black. (I'm not wearing a veil or a train. I think people would know I'm the bride based on youth.) But, I'm uncertain if I should say to her about picking a different color.
I also asked her not to pick the same colors as my BM. I haven't decided on the color because I wanted them to go with me and we can decide as a group. I prefer to run things as a democracy rather than a dictatorship. She advised me that I should just picked whatever color for them. I believe that my FMIL wants me to do this, so she can focus on her dress.
I'm really excited that she is happy for us. But, I'm concerned that she will purchase a dress that is the same color as mine and not wait for me to choose my BM dresses.
How should I handle this without hurting her feelings?