For the past 3 years, every time we've ever talked about weddings, my friend has always said "you're going to be my MOH!" This past summer, one of her friends from high school reemerged in her life first time I met her was when my friend got engaged. It's worth noting, her fiance amp; I were the ones who did all of the work as far as planning the engagement it involved using my horse, and surprising her the fiance and I both suggested things for the friend from HS to do, and she refused. However, after the engagement, the girl totally took credit, which made me pretty upset, but what was done was done.Fast forward 6 months, and my friend decides she wants her friend from HS to be her MOH; I accepted that fact just fine to her face, was polite, etc. This past Saturday, we set out to search for her dress. In attendance were the MOB, MIL, MOH, MOH's mom no clue why, bride, and myself.Before we were even out of town, the MOH was being a complete biatch to me, but I let it slide. We ate before the fitting, and the MOH would look at me as I asked her a question, then completely ignore me, or just start talking over me. This went on for most of the day. The bride was aware of it and said something to her mom, who in turn said something to MOH's mom, and I was told that the MOH had been "spoken to". She continued to be extremely rude the rest of the evening.nbsp;At the end of the trip, the bride "apologized" to me, but wasn't at all upset with her MOH acting that way today I learned the MOH apologized to the bride, but nothing towards me. I've seen this girl twice before dress shopping, there is no way I've done anything to her to warrant her behavior. Today, I asked the bride what the MOH's issue was the bride said she "didn't know" I'm 75 sure she was lying to me. It's worth noting that before the trip occurred, the bride assured me that she had spoken to the MOH and that she would not be an issue.nbsp;Needless to say, I wanted to beat the girl silly once we were home and done with dress shopping the whole time we were looking for stuff for the bride, I was polite, and drew no attention to the fact that the MOH was being a little snotty brat.nbsp;The issue at hand is that I cannot deal with this for another year, and if she acts the same way when the other BMs are here, that certainly won't be a nice time. I told the bride today, that if she was okay with it, I wanted to have lunch with the MOH without the bride since the bride already spoke to her, and the MOH agreed to one thing and still acted like an asshole. I'm attempting to get opinions from a few people before I commit to dining with her. By having lunch with her, my goal is to figure out what the hell her issue with me is, what she needs to solve it, and to talk about the other BMs.nbsp;The girl is no angel, as we were looking at dresses, she insisted the one she tried on be the one picked, because she looked SO good in it, she's an all around AW.Just to note, the bride is 20, MOH is 21, and I'm 24; so far I have handled the situation in a very adult manner, and I am all for putting my feelings aside for the bride, the MOH is clearly not however I can't let someone disrespect me for over a year every time there's a fitting or outingnbsp;with no consequences.Edited to add:nbsp;I completely understand with a 'standard' timeline, there wouldn't be very much contact, and BMs wouldn't be doing much at this stage. However, the bride is intent on having things done sooner, rather than later. Also, the bride has said to me and I'm quoting her word for word, "I want y'all to be friends"
Update thanks for all of your answers; I told the bride today that I wouldn't be contacting the MOH, that it wasn't my place and I hoped next time we were all together things would go better. She replied that she thought it was a good idea that I contact her, I told her I had conferred with a few people and established that it wasn't my place, to which she replied "if that's what you want to do, fine". Regardless, I'm not contacting the MOH, next time I see her will be when BM dress shopping occurs and I guess we'll see how that goes when it gets here.
Thanks again.