Recently I became engaged. I am having 6 wonderful girls stand up next to me on my special day. It was hard not to have 30 people stand up so 6 is What I narrowed it down to. When I was younger I was very close to a girl. After high school we lost touch some but would still talk every couple of months. And try and meet up. She is now living 6 hours away and its hard to get a phone call, more less a text... her mother and my mother are "friends" and when her mother found out from mine that I wasn't having her stand up, she told her whole family and they are all furious with me. One of her sister's even posted a snarky remark towards me on facebook saying " if I'm not going to have someone I've known my whole life in my wedding, to not expect to be a part of her life either" .. she also commented and said " she hopes I feel like a complete dumbass when she's not there for me on my big day." ... one of the big reasons that helped me decide not to have her stand up is when I texted her and told her I was engaged she was in town and didn't even tell me. I haven't seen her in over a year, I get engaged, she's in town and says nothing... I know I'm venting but I'm just wondering am I really that awful? I called her today and there was no response. The girls I've chose to stand up are close friends and family and I see all the time. They are always there for me and I see them all the time.. I just don't know what to do. Help!