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My Maid of Honor

mel4life08mel4life08 member
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My best friend of 10 years is my maid of honor. I love her to death but she is so extra. We live in Chicago so the night life here is incredible, but for some reason she is insisting on going to Vegas. I know I'm supposed to let my bridal party plan my bachelorette party but everyone is on a budget.
Plus she is starting to annoy me asking me details about it when the wedding isn't until Next July. How do I nicely tell her to calm down?
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  • LittleMissCutiePieLittleMissCutiePie
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Tell her very calmly that Vegas sounds great, but maybe ask everyone first before planning an expensive trip. If she still is adamant on Vegas, tell her a little more firmly that she should look to others to help plan and come up with ideas, because not everyone will be able to afford the trip, and you'd be very sad if all your gals couldn't make it. As for her bugging you about deets, she's just very excited. Tell her to keep a journal of ideas/questions, and you will come to her later and ask her for ideas, because the idea of planning so early is very stressful. Stress that you value her imput, or else you wouldn't have asked her to be MOH, but for right now it's just a little too intense to have everything on the go.

    ood luck and Congrats!
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  • Britt1893Britt1893
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    edited December 2011
    At least your MOH is wanting to know about your wedding, she is ready to be supportive, there IS such thing as too...clingy, but with your wedding 11 months away, you might want to give her some information.
    He stole my heart, so I'm stealing his last name.
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  • NicnJen01NicnJen01 member
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    edited December 2011
    Aw... read some of the girls posts whose MOH's suck.  Mine's good too, doesn't have the cash for vegas, but maybe talk to the other maids and see what's up?
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    edited December 2011
    She needs to speak with the other BMs before she decides on anything.  If you really don't want to go to Vegas then tell her.  They shouldn't plan anything that you absolutely do not want to do.

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  • CassieeKCassieeK
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    edited December 2011
    She needs to talk to the other girls and see whatt their budgets are like before she becomes too involved in planning these things.
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  • SFA2010SFA2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    Your lucky my maid of honor didnt do much for my wedding.....I ended up having to do a bachelorette party the night before which I did not want to do...(I wanted to go out downtown houston), but she was also 16, but I gave her peoples info so she could ask them for their input....sadly enough though that about a month before the wedding I sent my maid of honor telling her I wasnt having a bachelorette pary...& she had asked why & I said that it is because no one is throwing it....so she pretty much had rushed & didnt put much effort into it. So since our wedding I have been dying for a crazy party night since I didnt get what I wanted for my bachelorette party. My maid of honor had to do something though because my best friend & sister-in law had put together my bridal shower. I felt like I got jimped completely....I had been planing the wedding forever & didnt really get anything from my maid of honor but she did end up helping the bridesmaids tie thier dresses....
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  • lucy2113lucy2113 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_maid-of-honor-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:949328a9-9a7f-4d3e-b435-21b8ce0d13e5Post:dcdcf069-0b68-4732-8ca9-1e20987dbbaa">Re: My Maid of Honor</a>:
    [QUOTE]Your lucky my maid of honor didnt do much for my wedding.....I ended up having to do a bachelorette party the night before which I did not want to do...(I wanted to go out downtown houston), but she was also 16, but I gave her peoples info so she could ask them for their input....sadly enough though that about a month before the wedding I sent my maid of honor telling her I wasnt having a bachelorette pary...& she had asked why & I said that it is because no one is throwing it....so she pretty much had rushed & didnt put much effort into it. So since our wedding I have been dying for a crazy party night since I didnt get what I wanted for my bachelorette party. My maid of honor had to do something though because my best friend & sister-in law had put together my bridal shower. I felt like I got jimped completely....I had been planing the wedding forever & didnt really get anything from my maid of honor but she did end up helping the bridesmaids tie thier dresses....
    Posted by SFA2010[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Your MOH did what she was supposed to. She got the dress and showed up for the wedding. She didn't have to throw a bachlorette party. Pre-Wedding parties are a gift from your WP if they can and want to. You didn't get ''jimped''.  You are being very selfish & childish. 
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    </div><div>OP.. Ask her to talk to your other bridesmaids about what is in their budget before she makes anymore decsions. GL</div><div>
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