So I recently got engaged and getting married Oct 2014. I excitedly asked my sister to be my MOH and my 3 closest girlfriends to be my bridesmaids soon after the question was popped. I know I probably asked too soon, but to me this was a no brainer since I've been BFFs with two of them since grade school. Well one of the BFFs is getting married this June. While I disagree with the marriage and who she is marrying(contolling fiancee and pressure from family to get married since they have a kid now is not a good mix) but I have always supported her. A little while ago I asked who her bridesmaids were going to be and she selected her sister, a friend, and maybe a cousin. I was very hurt when I heard this.
Now I have no issue with not being picked, far from it actually. I was hurt as who she picked in place of me. Her sister I can totally see her picking...I did, but was the fact that the other two people she selected was a friend she's only known a year and a cousin who she is not very close with. The friend she has picked is also coincidentily one of the only friends she has who likes her fiance.
I thought our friendship was deeper that she seems to think it is. I am hurt that she'd put someone she just met before friends she's known since grade school and have been through so much together.
I'm hurt so much that I'm considering unbridesmaiding her. I reserved these positions for my closest friends who are like sisters to me and she seems to have taken that sisterhood and put it behind her fiancee.
Do you think unbridesmaiding her is a good idea? I know it could destory the friendship we have, but at this point with letting her fiancee control her life she is destroying her friendship with the two people who have been there for her through everything. I'm just stuck.