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Torn...

Hello all...So I am finally starting to plan the wedding and we are finally doing things but my problem is my mom.  We are really close and hang out a lot but she isnt really the talkative show the emotion type which is fine but it kind of makes it awkward when I want to talk about the wedding or go do wedding stuff.  I really want to keep her involved and I know she is happy for us and loves my fiance but she just doesnt get excited or show it if she is.  My fiances mom is great and is always sending me stuff to look at, asking about how things are going, and wanting to go with us to look at things.

I feel like I am trying to stay calm like them but want to giggle and jump around cause it is a happy time.  I dont really know what to do.  She will talk about things if I bring them up and I show her things I buy and she just doesn't seem to care as much.  She says the things are cool or pretty but then thats all she says. 

When I talk about it with my fiance he just tells me to not let it ruin anything and I should still be having fun but its still always there.  I may just be overthinking this or being a little over emotional but I dont know...she's my mom.  She's my best friend and I want to be able to talk and enjoy doing things with her.

Re: Torn...

  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
    Knottie Warrior 2500 Comments 500 Love Its First Answer
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_torn?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:973e9ef3-a4fc-4cf6-9bb3-e6e76814c473Post:5aefb43e-d28f-4dba-baef-53d4b4010f36">Torn...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hello all...So I am finally starting to plan the wedding and we are finally doing things but my problem is my mom.  We are really close and hang out a lot but she isnt really the talkative show the emotion type which is fine but it kind of makes it awkward when I want to talk about the wedding or go do wedding stuff.  I really want to keep her involved and I know she is happy for us and loves my fiance but she just doesnt get excited or show it if she is.  My fiances mom is great and is always sending me stuff to look at, asking about how things are going, and wanting to go with us to look at things. I feel like I am trying to stay calm like them but want to giggle and jump around cause it is a happy time.  I dont really know what to do.  She will talk about things if I bring them up and I show her things I buy and she just doesn't seem to care as much.  She says the things are cool or pretty but then thats all she says.  When I talk about it with my fiance he just tells me to not let it ruin anything and I should still be having fun but its still always there.  I may just be overthinking this or being a little over emotional but I dont know...she's my mom.  She's my best friend and I want to be able to talk and enjoy doing things with her.
    Posted by LindseyLou00[/QUOTE]

    You are overthinking this. She's your mom and you admit that she's behaving the way she always has. People aren't going to change their entire personality just because you're getting married. If you're a giggly, jump-around kind of girl, then for the love of Pete, giggle and jump around!
  • edited December 2011
    haha...yeah...thats a good point.  Sometimes it just takes someone else's point of view to realize...duh
  • tpender13tpender13 member
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Ditto PP. It doesn't sound like she's being outright rude or anything like that. Also, nobody (except MAYBE your FI) is going to care about your wedding as much as you do. I'd just try to brush it off.
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  • edited December 2011
    You do what makes you feel good...giggle away.  You know she loves you and is happy for you...and she knows you will giggle and dance around and that makes her happy too.

    My husband is not a demonstrative man.  He doesn't hold hands, kiss in public, make a spectacle.  But I know right down to the ground that he loves me and gets joy from watching me get crazy!
    My baby girl is a married woman...and now my baby girl HAS a baby girl. Time unfolds in such an amazing way. I've been blessed!
  • edited December 2011
    Ditto-your mom is supportive and that's all that matters!!
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