help with mother

bettker88

So everyone is pitching in for this wedding and my colors are navy blue and pale yellow. My vision (which I've had for years) is white/ivory with pale yellow flowers. My mom thinks we need blue flowers. I think it's too much blue because the sashes, the napkins, and the fabric runner on the table is all going to be navy. LIke I said, everyone is pitching in for this wedding, including myself. So because I don't want any blue flowers, she thinks I don't care about her opinion and that I don't want her input. I tried to compromise with her and put dark blue glass beads in the glass jar (which will be sitting on a mirror) but she is still fighting this. I want to execute my dream centerpiece but I don't want to hurt her feelings! Help!!!

Summer2011Bride

You could say you are paying for the flowers, and then you can do them however you want. I do think your mother should let you pick the flowers you want, but if she is paying for them, it sounds like there will be strings attached to her money. If you want full control of the flowers, I'd pay for them.

bettker88

Well our centerpieces are included within the package we chose for the reception. HJ Benken is creating them... so we are each putting equal parts into it. But we are most likely paying for the rest of the floral budget.

Muffin'sMom

According to your profile, your wedding isn't til September of 2013...you have plenty of time for this.  Walk away from the flower discussion until next year.  Seriously.....

MobKaz

If your wedding is in September of 2013, you have plenty of time to play around with inspirations.  Google images and find centerpieces and bouquets that show some compromise.....

http://www.google.com/search?q=blue+and+yellow+bouquets&hl=en&client=firefox-a&hs=klz&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&prmd=imvns&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=47RBT7XhBMnegQfOzZGFCA&ved=0CD4QsAQ&biw=1173&bih=513

You may also find that as the months go by, the ideas you have at the moment may change.  The same may apply to your mom.

Play around with inexpensive navy cloth and  paper napkins and try to "create" the settings you envision.  Once you see things "live and in person", both of you may realize that what you picture in your mind does not translate in actual appearance.  Once navy paper goods come into play this summer, buy some and play with actual mock ups of table settings. 

willywally5

Seriously, you have a LONG time to make this decision. Your tastes or hers may change. It may seem like a monumental thing right now, but in the whole scheme of life, it's really not. You'd think your mother would be wise enough to choose her battles wisely. Yegads.