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two bridesmaids want to wear Rhinestone head pieces??

StaceyKiblerStaceyKibler member
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Okay, so my MOH and a BM have made comments they would like to wear a type of Rhinestone headband/piece.  This really bothers me because I wanted to wear a simple headband like that., I'm not into tiara's.  I feel like if they wear something like that, they will stand out.  I love them to death, but I don't want their hair to outshine mine.  Is it okay for me to ask them not to? Or am I over reacting?
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    You could buy all the bridesmaids rhinestone hair clips to wear. Just don't count those as their attendants gifts.


                       
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  • StaceyKiblerStaceyKibler member
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    edited December 2011
    well, i thought about maybe just doing flowers. If they all have rhinestone head pieces, my hair will just blend in.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    Did you tell them you are buying flowers for their hair? It's okay to tell them that you will be providing their headpieces.

    But even if they show up in tiaras, you are not going to blend in with them. Everyone will know the bride is the women in the beautiful white dress.
                       
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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_two-bridesmaids-want-wear-rhinestone-head-pieces?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:9a2847c0-bb85-460a-9f1c-f552005302a6Post:73205b99-9a82-4975-b765-50d7b5432ac9">Re: two bridesmaids want to wear Rhinestone head pieces??</a>:
    [QUOTE]You could buy all the bridesmaids rhinestone hair clips to wear. Just don't count those as their attendants gifts.
    Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

    This. I think a tiara would be a bit excessive for a BM to wear.
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    I really wouldn't worry that you will blend in, unless of course they are planning to wear veils and wedding gowns as well. 
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    I don't think a rhinestone headband is the same as a tiara.  A couple of my girls wore headbands, and I know one of them had rhinestones.  I think you're overreacting.  You're the bride, no one is going to outshine you.
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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    Maire had a good suggestion, you could supply headpieces.

    However, you are overreacting a bit. No one is going to outshine you! You're already going to stand out, and worry about a rhinestone headband is only going to cause you to stress over unnecessary worries. Brides have a glow about them that no BM can copy. Plus you'll have the dress, and veil and all that. In the end, it's just a headpiece, and if it makes them look nice, who cares?
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    You're overthinking this.  I rhinestone headband does not ever outdo the girl in the big white dress exchanging vows.  I don't like the look of rhinestone headbands, so it wouldn't be my cup of tea.  But please don't think that anyone will "outshine" you at your wedding.
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  • kpwedkkkpwedkk member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_two-bridesmaids-want-wear-rhinestone-head-pieces?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:9a2847c0-bb85-460a-9f1c-f552005302a6Post:fa667195-0e7a-4860-a064-9e30c5c0f445">two bridesmaids want to wear Rhinestone head pieces??</a>:
    [QUOTE]Okay, so my MOH and a BM have made comments they would like to wear a type of Rhinestone headband/piece.  This really bothers me because I wanted to wear a simple headband like that., I'm not into tiara's.  I feel like if they wear something like that, they will stand out.  I love them to death, but I don't want their hair to outshine mine.  Is it okay for me to ask them not to? Or am I over reacting?
    Posted by StaceyKibler[/QUOTE]

    I think it's fine if some of your Bridesmaids want to wear a rhinestone head piece.  All of your bridesmaids don't have to look the same standing next to you.

    I think, like some of the previous posters, that you are overthinking this.  This sparkly headpiece is in no way going to outshine, you the bride :)  It adds uniqueness to your bridesmaids, and brings out their sparkling personality.

    Hope that help!

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  • Muffin'sMomMuffin'sMom
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    edited December 2011
    You've been given good answers.  You HAVE to believe that no matter how they wear their hair, no one will think that you are less special.  If you want to compromise, you could buy them COLORED rhinestone headbands that match their dresses...
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  • lmcit23lmcit23 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would nicely tell them you are thinking of wearing something similar and ask them to wear something else there as so many other options. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_two-bridesmaids-want-wear-rhinestone-head-pieces?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:9a2847c0-bb85-460a-9f1c-f552005302a6Post:460de7e9-cefd-4dd7-8ab8-d3a1f08d68d9">Re: two bridesmaids want to wear Rhinestone head pieces??</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would nicely tell them you are thinking of wearing something similar and ask them to wear something else there as so many other options. 
    Posted by lmcit23[/QUOTE]


    Exactly.  There are a thousand choices for hair and I don't find it unreasonable at all that you would like your choice to be very different from the others.

    It doesn't have to get reduced to "worrying that someone will confuse them for the bride," of COURSE that isn't the issue.  I see nothing wrong with wanting everything on you to be ONLY on you tht one day of your life.
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  • greenicgreenic
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    edited December 2011
    Tell them no if your not excited about it.  If it was something you were wanting to wear they should realize that maybe its not a good idea.
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  • donnaoneilldonnaoneill member
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    edited December 2011
    Like all others have said, no one will outshine you. However, I don't think you are overreacting to not wanting them to wear a rhinestone headband... especially if you want to wear one. I know if one of my BMs wanted to wear a rhinestone headband, I would strongly dissuade them otherwise because I'm doing a halfupdo WITHOUT a veil, so there will only be a small rhinestone/pearl clip in the back. A rhinestone headband/tiara would be a much more formal updo than mine. If you want them to wear something else, purchase the headpieces for them. They could maybe wear a headband with colored rhinestones like someone said, or a flowery headband. Maybe they just like the idea of having a band to help hold up their hairstyle?
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  • laxina1404laxina1404 member
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    edited December 2011
    Personally, I view my wedding day as my excuse to wear a giant poofy dress and a tiara - my ONLY day to do so.  I'd phrase it this way to my bridesmaids and remind them that their day will come/has been here already.
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