My wedding is 3 months away, and my mother has been incognito for the entire planning until now. I have literally done EVERYTHING on my own up to this point - mainly because she said, "Choose what you want, and your father and I will pay for it." Now, all of a sudden, when it is getting close to check writing time for her, she wants to be picky about what I've selected, and prices of things such as chair covers, food, etc... I understand that she wants to ensure she is not over-paying; however, where the heck was she the last 7 months of planning? I have already booked the caterer, selected/finalized the menu, and she wants me to completely change the caterer to someone else. Seriously?!?
About her sudden penny-pinching frenzy: She recently had her boobs lifted, and is now getting implants in about 3 weeks. This is costing her upwards of $8,000 total (she told me this only 2 weeks ago). Can someone explain to me why she can afford to get new boobs, yet can't afford to pay for half of a $6,000 wedding? Not to mention she did not pay for a bit of my college (bachelors and masters), and is not helping repay my student loans. Would it be wrong to bring up that she could be paying $40,000 in student loans instead of half of this wedding?
If I haven't mentioned before, she and my Dad are divorced (she had an affair and then ran off with the man half-way across the country only 1 year ago - that is the short version). Throughout the entire engagement, until today, 3 months before the wedding - she mentions to me very casually that her "boyfriend" is attending the wedding with her!!!This completely came out of no-where, and could potentially ruin the entire wedding day, considering my Dad will go nuts when he finds out, and my sister (the MOH) is threatening not to come at all (her boyfriend of 5 years is already not coming, but that is another story for another day). Fellow brides and other MOB's, I must tell you that my family has not once in my entire life acted so trashy.
How in the world do I deal with my Mom in a fashion that will be respectful (even though she's obviously not being respectful of me), yet at the same time tell her she's being selfish. Afterall, she is funding most of the wedding, so I don't want to upset her too bad just yet.
I would elope this weekend, just to be married to my fiance. Yet, so much has already been purchased, paid for, ordered, etc....
What to do? I'm at my wits end today. Perhaps tomorrow will be better...