Bridesmaids problems

saspringer816

When I got engaged in March I asked my four closest friends to be my bridesmaids but I'm not really close with most of them now. I occasionally talk to a couple of them. And I dont know what I should do. Should I keep them all as my bridesmaids or not? And if not how should I tell them? The wedding date is August 2013. Help

jagore08

Don't do anything now.  Wait until Spring of 2013 to make any decisions.

PjSj100811

Why do you say you ae not too close now?  did something happen.  the people I consider my best friends and I sometimes go a few weeks without talking. It's not becasue we have blow-outs and aren't speaking to eachother but because we are all busy.  Lives get in the way and just because you don't have time to talk often doesn't mean you still aren't close friends. 

Kicking them out of your wedding is not going to help the friendships.  You asked them 2 1/2 years ahead of time and that can cause problems with many brides.  Wait to make any decissions until 6 to 9 months before the wedding, you don't want to kick these friends out of your wedding, ask other friends and then have the same thing happen.  You will end up being left with no friends because of it all.

ichellemay1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_bridesmaids-problems?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:9d65da6a-8058-4d46-9686-dcb92df2cd0bPost:48690060-8867-4643-9001-e0d17c75b1e3">Re: Bridesmaids problems</a>:
[QUOTE]Don't kick them out. That's a bridge burning, friendship ending move. You've got two years. Try and rekindle the friendship.
Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]

This.  Also, that is really early to ask...  Definitely give things a chance to change.

Hallanole

I want to offer some advice.

First: Relax. Things happen and friends get busy. Once you get into the hecticness of planning you will probably be too busy to talk to some people.

Second: Why don't you plan a gathering. Example, tonight I'm doing Girl's Night in with Wine. I invited all my maids, allowed them to bring friends, and invited some other friends. Everyone is excited to hang out and it's not wedding related.

Two of my maids are my cousins whom I wouldn't call very close as we are different styles of life. They were happy I asked and it brought us closer. I plan events that we can hang out non wedding related and wedding related. My cousin's have now gotten to be good friends with my best girl friends now.

So my point, Breath. Don't make any drastic plans, you still have like 2 years (I did the 2 year too, so I know) and just enjoy things and talk to them non wedding talks. If you asked them, they said yes. They want to be there for you on your day that is to them, light years away but to you all the excitement in the world.