What to do about BM dresses? *long*

xos0inlove

artbyallie

If the dress she chose fits the only criteria you gave them (black), then you can't change your mind now.

xos0inlove

I guess I should have been more specific with them, but I didn't expect something so out of left feild. It doesn't say bridesmaid or wedding to me at all. The one my MOH picked looks great as a bridesmaid dress but can still be worn out to dinner/dancing/a party, etc. To put it this way, when I showed FI his reply was "You told her this was a wedding & not a street walker convention, right?" Maybe when it arrives, she'll hate it.

RaptorSLH

It met the criteria, and you gave it your approval.  No take backs.  There's no way to do this without ruffling feathers.

AlmostMrsStrong

I'll be the voice of dissent here. She's your bridesmaid. You picked her because you're close to her. This is something you should be able to talk to her about. There are some things that arewedding appropriate and some things that aren't. See how the conversation goes,but if I were in your place I'd definitely offer to pay for the dress she already bought and ask her to reconsider.

casswhiting

I agree with "Almost" on this one. No one wants a person who is going out clubbing on their bridal party. Offer to take her out shopping and look for a new dress. One thing about this situation is the BM should have been more considerate--she's in a WEDDING, which means wedding appropriate dresses, not skin-tight dresses.

Talk to your BM! Let her know that you're worried it would be too inappropriate because of the style of the dress. There is nothing wrong with at least discussing it with her.

kennazebrowsky

If its that inappropriate then nicely tell her and pay for the other dress.

OliveOilsMom

Are you having a church wedding?  If your church has a modesty policy, you can use that to start the conversation about the dress. 

If you want her to have the dress that your MOH bought, just tell her that you changed your mind and would like matching dresses for the wedding party.  Then tell her you want her to get this dress.  And offer to pay the $50.  It was your mistake that lead her to get this dress, ie telling her to buy a black dress.