My fiance has informed me that his mother would like us to participate in a traditional Korean ceremony wearing a Hanbok on the day of our wedding. She insists that it will only be for pictures. The ceremony itself doesn't bother me, but I told my fiance that I didn't think it would be practical to pull off two outfits, two ceremonies, and two sets of pictures on the same day. He said he would inform her and that was that.
The real issue here, however, isn't her demand that we participate in this extra ceremony. In the three weeks that we have been engaged (after two months of discussing it with our families), she has not once made an effort to speak to me or make me feel welcome in the family. No phone call, no congratulations, nothing. All of our communication has been through my fiance. Now if she has requests that she would like to make regarding the wedding, that's fine, but is it unreasonable for me to expect that she come directly to me about them? Our relationship has been cordial, so I don't understand where this lack of contact is coming from. What do you guys think? Should I be the one reaching out to her? Trying not to stress about it, but...you know how it goes.
