I'm sure this question has been posted more than once as I'm sure I am not the only soon to be bride with this issue. The problem I am having is with my in-laws, or more specifically my FMIL. When my FI and I started dating I was asked to call his parents Mr. and Mrs. Something I found overly traditional but agreed because who am I to impose my beliefs onto someone else? Well, with the wedding quickly approaching this name issue has now come up once again. A few months ago my FMIL mentioned to my FI that once his sister in law became part of their family she called my FMIL "mom", and she would like me to do the same. To say that I am uncomfortable with this is putting it mildly. I have a wonderful family and an amazing mother who I am extremely close to. My FMIL and I do get along very well but we are not close by any means, which makes the request to call her "mom" even more confusing. Actually it makes me really angry that she would ask me to call her something so initimate, even though, like I said, we are not close at all. While my FI was out to dinner with his parents alone this weekend the subject was brought up once again. My FI knows my feelings and expressed them to his mother. He asked if I would be able to call my FILs by their first name. My FMIL told my FI she would not be comfortable with that and while she understands my discomfort with the term 'mom and dad' she would still prefer it if I would refer to them as such.
At this point I do not feel comfortable approaching the subject with my FMIL alone because I am very upset by it and I am afraid my emotions will get in the way of a rational conversation. I don't feel like I can depend on my FI to stick up for me in this situation because when it comes to his mother he is a MAJOR push over and refuses to get in the middle. Has anyone else had this problem? Am I being over sensative or are my feelings valid? HELP!