Need advice about MOH

jesslca113

I haven't posted here in a long long time so I'm sorry if I ramble.  I seem to be having problem after problem with my MOH.  My FI and I have been together for 2 years and my MOH has yet to meet him.  Every time I make plans with her she cancels or bails on me last minute.  She keeps telling me that she's busy with a new job and whatnot, but I know that she's going out on the weekends with other friends, so why can't she see me?  Also, she hasn't gotten her dress and my wedding is in 5 months.  My BMs and I decided on a dress on the internet which was in everybody's price range.  My feelings are hurt that she seems to be making NO effort to see me or even meet my FI.  I know this is harsh, but I'm about ready to remove her from my bridal party.  Help!

taraajones

I have had the same problem with my MOH. She has met my FI a couple times but overtime we try to make plans with her she cancels. She didn't even come to my bachelorette party! It made me so upset because we've been best friends for 12 years. I thought about taking her out too but i decided i love her and want her there. I was afraid she wouldn't even come if i took her out and that would hurt me. If you are really close to her you should just call her and tell her exactly how you feel. Sometimes people don't realize they are hurting you when they are. I hope this helps you and good Luck!

Maggie0829

Has she always been flaky or did it only start when you and your FI got together?

She still has plenty of time to get her dress, so do not worry about this.

jesslca113

My MOH and I have been friends for about 5 years.  So we haven't spent a lifetime together, but she's still a great friend of mine.  She was never like this before I met my FI.  In the beginning she'd make plans with me then cancel.  And eventually she just stopped making plans.  It just seems like ever since I met the FI she's been pulling away.  I don't want 10 years to pass and wonder who that girl is in my wedding photos..  

Maggie0829

Then I think you need to talk to her and tell her what you are feeling.  Let her know that you value your friendship and that you feel like she is pulling away.  She may not even realize that she is doing it.  She may have a reason for pulling away.  But you will never know until you ask.