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FSIL and FMIL Dresses and advice

So, my FSIL and FMIL are really excited for the wedding. So excited in fact that they started asking me about clothing in June, when the wedding is still a year from now, December. I'm letting the BMs pick out their own dresses in the same color, length, and fabric, my mother is insisting that we order all the dresses from the same store at the same time (any variation in color would drive her up a wall, not worth my energy to argue the matter). FSIL has already been trying on dresses, but none of the other BMs have, nor do I think they need to consider it yet, a year is a long way away in clothing terms. FMIL is genuinely worried about finding a dress RIGHT NOW that works with my mom's and she and I really like. (Note, my mother hasn't looked at anything officially yet, and all I want is for them to look nice and be comfortable with whatever they wear). 

I've told both of them that there's no need to worry so much about everything yet, but it's been no use. Any advice on how to keep them from worrying about finding dresses? I'm really glad they're so excited for the wedding, but their worrying is starting to stress me and my FI out.

Also, on a similar note, the scheduler that The Knot has says to do BM dresses about 6-8 months out. Is that a good projection to follow?

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Re: FSIL and FMIL Dresses and advice

  • kaitlyn&henrykaitlyn&henry member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    It sounds to me like they are more exicted than anything...just try not to talk to them about it and if they bring it up just politely say that its not on your radar yet and (if you have a wedding book/planner with a timeline) its not time yet according to the timeline you are following.

    Since you have multiple BMs 6-8 months is a good time to start rallying the girls and just remind them its time to start thinking about it. I wouldnt worry about seriously looking until closer to 6 months or less. Most bridal salon attendants are working on comission and will try to convince you to buy ASAP but dont let them rush you.
  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would just ignore them if they bring it up again.  It seems from your post that they are not part of the wedding party so it really doesn't matter what dress they get (color, length, etc).  If they bring it up again just say that "I am sure whatever you find will be perfect".  If they want to stress out then let them, just don't let it worry you.

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