Help for "fun" wedding projects only

bride4567

I really appreicate help from family and friends. However, a lot of people have been asking, what can I do to help? Then, I would say oh, do you photoshop because we need to design programs? The answer is no. 

Then, I would ask, oh would you be able to contact this person and ask about that? The answer is no. 

Then, my friends and family would ask, "do you have any fun crafty projects?" My answer is I really need help with the programs and contacting vendors. I really don't have any crafty projects. Then, the person's answer is nevermind. 

Again, I really appreciate the offer, but I don't have any projects to give to people that is considered "fun". Has anyone been dealing with this?

EK2013

Thank them for their offer and let them know that if something comes up, you know who you'll call?

MairePoppy

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[QUOTE]I really appreicate help from family and friends. However, a lot of people have been asking, what can I do to help? Then, I would say oh, do you photoshop because we need to design programs? The answer is no.  Then, I would ask, oh would you be able to contact this person and ask about that? The answer is no.  Then, my friends and family would ask, "do you have any fun crafty projects?" My answer is I really need help with the programs and contacting vendors. I really don't have any crafty projects. Then, the person's answer is nevermind.  Again, I really appreciate the offer, but I don't have any projects to give to people that is considered "fun". Has anyone been dealing with this?
Posted by bride4567[/QUOTE]

They probably feel obligated to offer, but don't want to be assigned wedding related chores. That's fine because it's up to you and your fi to contact vendors and carry out the diy projects for your wedding.

Everyone has their own definition of 'fun.' But it sounds like they are looking for a simple project that you can do together, rather than errands or something time consuming and detailed, such as photoshopping.

You should just thank them for their offer to help, but say you and fi have everything covered.

jemmini6

If you don't have any 'craft' type stuff to do, then when people ask if they can help, just say "thanks for the offer, but we've got everything covered, I'll let you know if anything comes up". 

To me, there's a big difference between 'helping' with stuff, and being put in charge of major planning details like designing stuff or contacting vendors.  That's stuff you need to handle on your own even if someone offers to help.

Summer2011Bride

Ditto PP. It's one thing to sit and help put together favors with the bride and some friends, and totally different to be in charge of calling up vendors. That kind of stuff is up to you and FI and I wouldn't want that responsibility for somebody else's wedding. If you have no craft projects right now, just thank them for the offer of help but tell them it's all covered for now.

[Deleted User]

I think people are trying to offer their time for fun things that could be potential group opportunities.  Putting something together in Photoshop is extremely time consuming and tedious.  They may not be able to commit that level of time to  help out.  

If you need help calling vendors and making arrangements consider hiring a full service wedding coordinator.

mcskatcat

I don't think specialized services such as design should be "help."  Find someone professional to do that.  If you don't have any DIY stuff they can help with, tell them thanks for the offer and you'll keep that in mind.