I'm starting to have issues dealing with my future mother-in-law. To make it simple, I'll try to break it down..
*she is constantly trying to "help" by making suggestions and giving us opinions... she has purchased a few things without showing me or asking, and says she thought they would be "perfect for our centerpieces".. but she's never asked me if I have centerpieces figured out already or not.. she just buys things and expects I'll use them...
*she is wanting to help plan the wedding more than my own family... everytime I say "I need to call the rental company" "I need to find a good florist" "I think I'll look for x, y, z object to use".... she immediately jumps in with a "let me do it, I can do it, I will do it, I know someone who has that, I'll ask this person for that, etc.."
*she has been "strongly suggesting" to us that we invite her husband's cousin and their children (and the couple they live with, because it would be rude not to invite the other family they share a house with...).. she asked my fiance and I how many of our personal friends we were inviting, and if they were actually good friends, or people we could cut to make room for their cousins...
and now, since my fiance is getting a new job and moving closer to me and farther away from her, she has become VERY concerned about what we do together (she's quite old fashioned).
I feel like the best thing to do would be to talk to her and try to explain how I feel and why, but at the same time I'm afraid she'll just flip out and get angry. My fiance asked her to back off on giving me wedding suggestions, and she got very upset (crying, yelling, saying things like "Fine! I'll never speak about the stupid wedding ever again!")
So.. should I say anything? let it roll off my back? what could I even say to this? My fiance is very supportive, and has been on my side.. but she is a very persistent woman.
HELP?!?!