My Mom wants to wear a party dress like a 16 year old!

tldh

Come to think of it, I don't have a single picture of me with my mom.  We have a few of her though.  OP, what is your problem with letting your mom's personality come through in her dress? She picked it so obviously it's who she is.

filaw

I also feel the poster's pain.  I was just happy when my mom told me she'd figured out what she was wearing.  Then she showed up to the wedding looking like this:

In the end, you can't and shouldn't try to control what she wears.  But believe me, I get it that sometimes MOB's can really make strange choices, and it can be hard for the bride.

EDIT: I also wanted to say, day of it barely affected me, I was so swept up in everything, though, it was quite a startle.  It does bother me occasionally when I see the pictures though.  Mostly it's funny, but when it came time to pick the photos that we were going to hang, etc. I didn't want any pictures of me and my mom, cause it was too ridiculous.  But in the grand scheme of things, not liking any of the pictures of me and my mom from my wedding day is really not that bad.

lalap69

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My Mom wants to wear a party dress like a 16 year old! : You rarely, if ever, look at your wedding photos.  <strong>But if you want to live like Miss Havisham and constantly relive the memories of your wedding for the rest of your life, be my guest</strong>.  I for one vote to enjoy it but keep it in context.  That's what we did.  Oh yeah and we still don't have our album yet after 18 months--it's coming next month.  200 FB photos have been sufficient for the time being :)
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
Hahaha, oh Brooke, you really are a geek!  First LOTR and now Great Expectations!

I knew there was a reason I liked you. :)

janicejab

  Let your mom be happy and comfortable. I think people look better when they feel good about themselves. If she's forced to wear something she doesn't like, she's going to look uncomfortable and unhappy. Wouldn't you rather see your mom look happy and radiant at your wedding, even if it is in a dress you don't like?

bablingbrooke

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My Mom wants to wear a party dress like a 16 year old! : Hahaha, oh Brooke, you really are a geek!  First LOTR and now Great Expectations! I knew there was a reason I liked you. :)
Posted by lalap69[/QUOTE]
I aim to please :)

TheCranberry

OMG, filaw, is that for real?!  That's crazy.  I'm glad you seem to have kept a level head about it.

OP, you can offer to take your mom shopping and suggest that she try on different dresses.  What kind of relationship do you have?  If you guys routinely give each other opinions on clothes, then let her know what you think just as you normally would.  Don't be mean about it though.  In the end, it's her decision, and even though it's not your style, she has to be happy with what she's wearing. 

calindi

HAHAH OMG filaw... that's just too much!  You need to submit that photo to Wedinator.com!  I'm really happy that you were able to put it in perspective, though, and enjoy your day.  I do think that would bother most people, bridezilla or not, having their mother show up in the exact same dress basically.  Did she even realize?

kristine0613

I was in the same delima but thank god she didnt like how it looked! I know the MOB dresses are well ugly for the most part but a bridesmaid dress is fine as long as she is covered up my dress doesnt show all my goods and neither should hers! I want it to be appropriate or she might regret it later. I plan to go with her and try pointing out some I like but I will leave the choice up to her since she has to wear it all night.

filaw

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[QUOTE]HAHAH OMG filaw... that's just too much!  You need to submit that photo to Wedinator.com!  I'm really happy that you were able to put it in perspective, though, and enjoy your day.  I do think that would bother most people, bridezilla or not, having their mother show up in the exact same dress basically.  Did she even realize?
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

<div>I have no idea what she was thinking.  Remarkably, it's possible she was just *that* unaware that the dress looked exactly like mine.  Or it's possible that she thought it would be sweet to be matchy matchy.  If my mother didn't have such a long history of doing completely oblivious things, I might have thought it was some kind of passive aggressive move.</div><div>
</div><div>It was certainly weird, and too sensitive for me to bring up to find out what she was thinking.  I don't know if I'll ever know.  If it ever comes up, it'll probably be when my little sister gets married.</div><div>
</div><div>But yeah, mom's are very capable of making decisions that embarrass themselves if not also their children.  So I sympathize with OP about wanting to do something about it, I just also hope to comfort the OP that no matter how "bad" it is, in the grand scheme of things, it won't be *that* bad.</div>

ckonidak

If it's ridiculously inappropriate, then I think you have something to gripe about. Otherwise, if it's simply not what you had envisioned her wearing, I think the PP's are right. You'll just need to smile and deal with it. :-( GL.

lavieboheme73

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[QUOTE]So when we first went looking for my wedding dress, my mom saw this silver party dress at David's Bridal that was in like the prom dress section of the store. <strong> I know they don't have it there anymore</strong>, but she keeps talking about how much she liked the dress; I haven't said it to her yet, but I don't think it's "Mother of the Bride" appropriate for the wedding, nor does my fiance.  What do I do? I want her to dress like an adult, but not hurt her feelings at the same time.  I was thinking of buying her a dress and seeing if she liked it and if not I could always return it. What do you think?
Posted by cassandra.marie[/QUOTE]

Did anyone else see the part in bold?  If the dress isn't even available any more, why is this still an issue?  Get over it.