To hire a day of coordinator or not?

spowell123225

I have a big delima, my moms my maid of honor, shes doing the centerpieces, decoraring the church and helping out with cost, plus she works. I'm getting marrie out of town and feel a coordinator may be needed to take care of all the other things, rehersal, the day of time line vendors, setting up the reception venue. However she states some family and help out with those things. I thinks thats too much for one per handle and besides she has to get dressed hair and make done as well. And shes my mom and i'm going to need her. I want everyone to enjoy the day w/o hving to miss any of the days events. What should i do? Found a doc for 600, the do the day of and rehersal.

Cookies Mom

Gat the DOC! My son was married last September and all of the things you mention were done by me, the groom, the bride and the WP. Way to stressful and I would have liked to spend more time enjoying the day! Wish I had gotten them a DOC as a wedding present! IMO a DOC is a must

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I'm still a long ways out from my wedding but after starting my research and seeing how much goes into everything I knew I needed help. I hired a DOC and even now it's definitely been worthwhile! 

You should really get one. Not only will it help relieve stress on the day of but it will let you AND your Mom enjoy your day. It's worth it, trust me! 

kmmssg

Best money I spent when DD #3 got married.  Do it!!

Annas2013

If I can save up enough I'll hire a DOC.  Especially since 3 days ago my mother informed me that she didn't want anything to do with planning the wedding.  And considering she is a last-minute procrastinator, even if she was helping I wouldn't want her rushing around stressed out trying to finish everything last minute.  

2012FutureMrsB

Def do a DOC! I'm getting married in 6 days and it has relieved soooo much stress for me to know I have someone in charge the day of, so I can relax and my family and BM's can relax and be there for me, rather than running around frantically setting up. I searched online and found someone who lives an hour away and doesn't mind driving - she only charges $500 for a 3-person crew AND she has been meeting with me beforehand to help me out. Search around and you'll find a good deal. Def worth the money.

Ven&Radio

I hired a DOC and even though I'm over a year away from my wedding, I already feel like it's money well spent.  She's happy to let me bounce ideas off of her or make recommendations on vendors.  She's even reached out to some of her vendor contacts on my behalf.  I know having her there to run the show and deal with the little things will allow me to enjoy my wedding day without having to sweat the small stuff.

ElisabethJoanne

Has your mother helped with an event like a wedding before? A large dinner party? A church social? A meeting with a meal of a large club? If she has, she probably knows about what she's getting into.

And if she knows what she's getting into, and wants to do the set-up, etc., herself, a day-of-coordinator might hurt her feelings. A lot of people show their love and joy by "helping" by doing. Pushing too much "Let me pay someone to do that for you" may come across as rejection.

abbitha7

I would definitely do it. Your mom might appreciate getting a break, even if she loves helping!