His Family

conger19

I am going to make this short and sweet. We are both big on family ( more me then him ). He is starting to view my family as his (which I love) because of the fact  his aunts and uncles are not even making an effort to come to our wedding. I asked my mom how she would feel about it if her sisters or brothers were not coming to the wedding and she just said that her feelings would be a little hurt.. Which naturally my fiances feelings are very hurt.

His mom doesnt seem to care. She says its "too far" (2 hrs in the car tops, we arent asking you to get on a plane or go across country), and "SORRY YOU DECIDED TO GET MARRIED 2 HOURS AWAY".
Its really starting to hurt his feelings and I am not sure how to handle it. I keep telling that he has so many other people that really love him and care about him that are going to be there and if they dont want to come then we dont want them there... but really, what should I do? I feel for him bc I know how upset I would be.

bunni727

Just be supportive of him, there really isn't anything that can be done.

I'm going through something very similar. My family totalled over a hundred, and ten are coming. We are having the wedding 2.5 hours away, in FIs home town, and people really aren't coming b/c it is too far for them to travel. Just try to remember that it is a matter of distance, not of being less valued.

MairePoppy

I'm sure your fi is disappointed that his aunts and uncles won't be attending your wedding. It's probably best if  you focus on more positive things, such as how well he gets along with your family and how happy they are that he will be part of their family. Don't talk about the missing aunts and uncles, unless he brings it up.

Kate61487

I'd also suggest limiting the number of obvious your family vs his family things at the wedding - like make sure your ushers split people evenly in the seats instead of doing 'sides'. 

hannahmassey

Some families just aren't super supportive. Sorry that his is one of them. 2 hours away isn't that bad. Really. They're probably just making excuses. My dads side of the family is the same way. They can't stand it if its not about them. God forbid they acknowledge our wedding or our child for that matter. And I think he has over 20 cousins total. Some people would die before they could be happy for someone else. Either they dont care or they're jealous.