Hey Moms,
We have an interesting situation and it seems to be pretty uncommon because we can't find any advice online. Hopefully you can give us some perspective! My fiance and I have been living together for about 4 years, and recently we got "officially" engaged. We let everyone know, and at that point, his parents seemed really excited. In the past, we have had a great relationship and they were actually asking for quite a while when we would tie the knot.
We had a meeting to set a date and secure the venue and my fiance asked his parents to come along. They did not respond (kept giving answers likie, "oh we'll see"- never a yes or no. Later, they didn't answer the phone so we could confirm yes or no). My fiance was actually really hurt. We haven't asked them for anything (ever, really) and he just wanted his parents support. He wants them to be involved. He expressed how he felt to his Dad today (we went last night) and told him that he was hurt that they didn't come. (I think they went shopping instead). Anyway, they finally said that they acctually don't like me (bride) and they are worried that thier son is making the wrong decision. I should also mention that we are 25 and 30, both with very good jobs and structure in our lives.
What could be causing this? It seems like a complete 180. We really don't mind if they disapprove, but it would have been nice to know ahead of time. I have a feeling like there is something more going on but I don't know what it could be. Jealousy? Insecurity? Any thoughts?
Thank you all for your help (and congrats on your upcomming celebrations!!)