I'm in three weddings next year, MOH in two. I'm beyond pumped and completely excited, but I also don't feel especially confident in what exactly my level of responsibility is to my brides and where to bring concerns I might have. I feel so honored to have been asked to be part of my friends' lives in this way, and I want to make sure I have my ducks in a row. I've looked on the net, and the answers are all over the place. These boards were a lifesaver when I was in the midst of wedding planning last year, so I thought I would ask here. Hopefully, you guys can help me out.
1. As MOH, I was under an impression that I was to help plan the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, but I've also read around that my only real responsibility is to wear the dress, show up on time, and be there on the wedding day. These seem like two different levels of involvement to me. Is it up to me? Is the shower more in the MOB's territory, and we as BMs just pitch in and help out? I'm really not sure. I definitely want to put together bachelorette parties with the other BMs, but I want to make sure these events are within all of our budgets. Am I even remotely on the right track? I feel a little lost!
2. Especially since I'm going to be in a number of weddings next year, but also in general, I'm not keen on spending near $300 on a dress. One bride has already started looking, and some of the dresses are in the $250-$275 range. After I asked how much they cost, she said that if these were too expensive, she was more than happy to continue looking, which is awesome. And, while I realize that is a LOT of money to lay down on a dress, it's still a little embarrassing that I want to have this conversation. How do I communicate these issues to my brides? Is this something I need to mention to the BMs as well, or should this conversation be kept just between me and the bride?
I really appreciate any advice or suggestions. Thanks so much in advance for your help!
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