When I first got engaged, a friend of mine asked to be a bridesmaid. I told her yes, and scheduled an appointment for all the girls to look at dresses and get fitted. Almost everyone got the dress that day, but she said she couldn't because she couldn't afford it at the moment. No big deal. Fast forward almost four months later. Everyone in the bridal party except her has gotten the dress. She still tells me she cannot afford the dress (which is $80).
However, on her Facebook, she checks into bars 4-6 nights a week. She often talks about going on shopping sprees. She's gotten a new tattoo since then and just recently bought the I-Phone 4s. I realize my wedding isn't for three months and maybe I am overreacting, but I feel as if she's going to back out by avoiding me. She hasn't really given me an answer about the dress except to constantly tell me how she can't afford it.
She lives with her parents, doesn't pay rent, car payments, school or her cell phone bill. She has a full time job. I've talked with the store handling my bridesmaid dresses and was told it would be best for her to get the dress soon, since the holidays are coming up and it may take longer for her to receive her dress, then a month before the wedding she will not be allowed to order the dress at all.
How do I talk with her about this? And am I just being crazy? Any sort of advice will help.
So yesterday her brother came over to my me and my FH's apartment. My FH has been pretty pissed with her, and I told him I would talk with her, however he was dead set on telling her off. Thankfully, I convinced him that was a bad idea. Anyways, he ended up telling her brother about the situation before I could talk with her and I assume he said something to her, since (after not hearing from this girl for weeks) she started texting me, not mentioning the wedding (she's a non-confrontational person like I am), but I got the vibe that she was trying to scope things out and see if I would mention something to her first about it.
Her brother didn't even know she was supposed to be in the wedding!
Anyways, I got a call from the store handling my dresses and was told she is about to hit the deadline to get the dress. I'm going to call her this afternoon and tell her she's out if she doesn't get the dress by that date. I'm at the point where I simply just do not want her in the wedding at all.
Last Update: I found out that she was coming onto my FH last night. He said he felt she was only doing it because he wasn't giving her any attention and that upset her. This is someone I DEFINITELY don't want in my bridal party, much less my wedding.