Let me explain before i get to my issue. I recently moved to AZ in 08. I just started to go to college and started to meet people. So i dont have strong connections like most people do with their bridesmaids like their high school friends or even longer friends. Most of my friends are 3000+miles away in another state and we talk on fb.
So anyways, I met my FI and we've been together 3yrs next month. We got engaged in Dec. and now were getting married in august. I have a great MOH. and i couldnt be happier. I asked my FI sister and she is easy going. But my other two BM, well not so much.
One of them i havent heard from in a few months. Her and her husband are standing in the wedding, he already said he isnt going to rent the same tux/suite the rest of the groomsmen are because he has a ton of them already, well we both want the groomsmen matching so thats going to cause an issue already. She is very quiet and isnt going to go wth the rest of us to do hair and makeup which is fine its her choice. the other BM is even more of a handful. She was going to plan my bacholerette party and she wanted to do it vegas but im getting married there and no one had the money for it. So she got upset by it i couldnt thank her enough but i have summer classes, one is a mother, the other is in another state and then one never responded. She then continued to say "Well lets have a party at my place to get wasted and high" ok i dont drink and i dont get high because I have MS. again knowing the other women in the party i said no because i know she would invite others who were under age and i wouldnt want to be around that. I havent heard from her in going on 2 months.
I gave her credit for trying to plan my party. Its just when 2 bridesmaids one being a mother, one trying to be a mom, one being out of state and myself just trying to stay healthy, thats just not a lifestyle we want to be around. She is already complaining about the makeup and hair is too much since its 160 saying "they better make me look like a model" and complaining that since my wedding is 10 days before her friends 21st birthday since she has to come back to vegas. Its like her priorties are more important with partying and drinking where as mine is to be with family and having fun going to see shows and showing people a good time. I can only have two drinks and im walking funny. thats not a good time for me.
What can i do about this issue? I mean I havent heard from these BM in awhile. I am not having a Bridal shower or a bacholette party. I am doing everything alot on my own or getting ideas from my MOH and vegas does alot for you anyways. so any and all advice here in this situation would be wonderful.