Parents Dress In same color as the Wedding Party?

Iceisa06

So I have never noticed this and my Mother-in-law to be asked if I wanted the parents to dress in the same color as the wedding party.  Is this normal? I know it's "my day" I just don't know what the norm on this is.  Any advice? The Colors for my wedding are Black and White with a splash of Purple and Silver.

Thank You!

jagore08

I think if they find a dress that they like and they feel great in it then it doesn't matter the color.

RebeccaB88

They can wear whatever they like.

Simply Fated

My friend's mom did this and it was absurd. It was almost like her mom was trying too hard to be part of the bridal party or something. And it gave my friend an absolute headache trying to find a color with enough styles to suit everyone or even similar colors with similar styles and... oh it was just ridiculous.
They don't have to match, honestly. It looks silly unless both mothers are on board for it, anyway. And it's not worth it. It's just not.

asialee2

They can wear the same color, just try to avoid the same shade. Otherwise she will look like the bridal party. 

MairePoppy

The MOB and MOG wear whatever they like. They are not part of the wedding party so they don't have to match or complement the bms or each other.

tenofcups4me

In my crowd, the mothers either wear the same color as the BMs or something complementary in the same color family (so if BMs are in lilac, for example, mothers might be in lilac, a deep purple, maybe a purply-blue, tan with purply undertones, etc.).

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They can wear whatever they want as long as they are comfortable and feel great in it. Both of our mothers wore a shade of purple dress, and 2 of my BM were also in purple dresses. It looked just fine in pics.

AshRouss

Our colors are purple and silver.  My mom chose a silver dress with black accents while the MOG chose a purple dress a shade or 2 lighter than my bridesmaids.  I think it will look great.  The groom is wearing a grey suit with Purple vest and tie.  It will all look cohesive in pictures.  Although I have NO idea what my step mom is wearing.  She hasnt really asked what colors either. 

seniah

My mom wore navy, my bridesmaids wore navy.  Totally looked cool to me! (the funny part is she had her heart set on something in green but couldn't find anything that didn't make her look like an old woman or an over grown teenager!!!)

The first wedding I was ever in our dresses were champagne and the moms wore a variation of champagne - it never occured to me that they matched lol.

Most weddings I've ever been to the mothers seem to compliment the wedding colors. 

trix1223

Ditto Maire.  Moms wear whatever they feel beautiful and comfortable in.  They are not members of the WP and as such don't have to coordinate or match them.

Muffin'sMom

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[QUOTE]Ditto Maire.  Moms wear whatever they feel beautiful and comfortable in.  They are not members of the WP and as such don't have to coordinate or match them.
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

Ditto both of them.  They should wear what the feel beautiful in.  My daughter's bridesmaids wore green, we had fall flowers and colors, and my dress was chocolate brown.

graysquirrel

If they just so happen to buy the same color, then that is fine. But if she means that it is her goal to match them or that she is asking you if it is normal to match, I'd say that it isn't the best plan. 

seasidebride24

Ditto PPs.  My mom and FMIL are wearing similar colors to our wedding colors, but not identical and that was their choice.  The only input I gave was that it is a very formal evening wedding that way they could pick a dress they would be comfortable in for that type of occasion. 

Thornws

My BM are in royal blue, the GM-including FIs Dad-are in dark champagne linen Suits with royal blue shirts...my mother is wearing a Silvery blue dress, Dad is wearing the same shirt as GM with dressy khakis, and future MIL is probably going to be in a tape shade....so, something similar to coordinate for photos, but their choice and comfortable. With all of the fantastic different shades and styles available, I would really jus tell her to think more complimentary, not matching, that way, you can get that lovely mantle photo and hopefully she will find something she loves and can wear again!:)

flerlgirl

I think it actually looks kind of cool if they do coordinate in some way. My friend just married and her colors were deep blue and violet (bridesmaids alternated dress colors). Her mom wore a plum-clored dress and her MIL wore a navy dress. Her grandparents even matched! It was cute

That being said, my colors are pink, silver, and black, and my mom is wearing a gorgeous dress in chocolate and copper and my FMIL is wearing a really pretty champagne dress, and I think it's going to look great.

Basically, I'm not helpful. But don't let this stress you! If they want to match and you don't care, I say go for it.

oceana919

I told my mom that I wanted her to pick a dress that made her feel beautiful, regardless of color. She ended up finding one that's a pretty close shade to the BP dresses and was pretty worried about looking like she was in the bridal party. The way I look at it, she won't. My BMs picked their own dress styles, and they're all these cute, young, modern style dresses - my mom's dress has a modern look as well, but is a beautiful elegant style that it totally perfect for her age and figure and looks nothing like the styles the other girls picked out. She won't be carrying a bouquet, she won't be walking in with the bridal party...she won't get mistaken for being a BM.

mstroud23

Proper ettiquette for MOG MOB is that MOB wears a color to compliment the WP and MOG wears a color to compliment the MOB. That's is the traditional ettiquette. Many a website has this information.

janicejab

  I'm all for adults who aren't in the wedding party choosing their own outfits. If they coordinate, that's great. If not, that's great. I just want everyone to feel great and like what they're wearing.

filaw

The "traditional" (and often overly annoying) approach is that the MOB picks a dress to "coordinate" with the WP and then the MOG follows her lead.  This may be what your FMIL is trying to figure out.

My MIL wore a lovely dress that she felt beautiful in, in a pink shade.  The WP was wearing a watermelon color and a sort of pale apricot.  She choose pink because she liked feeling like she didn't clash, but she didn't try to be matchy matchy about it.

My SIL (who walked our ring bearer down the aisle) found a pretty floral dress that matched the watermelon color that the BM's were wearing.  She looked stunning in it.

So yeah, your FMIL may just be trying to feel like she "fits in".  You might send her a pic of what the WP is wearing, and say, this is what they're wearing, but please feel free to wear whatever you like!

Kniblet

[QUOTE]I think if they find a dress that they like and they feel great in it then it doesn't matter the color.
Posted by jagore08[/QUOTE]
This exactly.

BlondeK3lly

My wedding was entirely Black & White and that's what the MOB & MOG both wore along with my BP...it was stunning and elegant!

cindy91788

I personally would not want to see the MOB or MOG in a dress the same color as the wedding party - it would look like they are trying to be a bridesmaid or something. They can choose whatever colors they like, but both moms know what color my BMs will be wearing (silver), and the moms will not be wearing silver.